Topic: what do you think of spanking ?
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SabrinaChevet

Wed 04/08/20 01:23 PM

hi :v: i just want to know how do you think of spanking
IMO i think its work sometimes
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msharmony

Wed 04/08/20 01:33 PM


hi :v: i just want to know how do you think of spanking
IMO i think its work sometimes


I feel the same. We were spanked, like many in my demographic and my culture, and were better prepared in life because of it, in my opinion. We, for certain, came to have better 'coping' skills about things not always going our way or not always being able to do whatever makes us 'happy'.


I do not think it works if it does not come from love and is not part of a balanced upbringing of discipline AND support/encouragement.


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Tom4Uhere

Wed 04/08/20 01:47 PM

There are a lot of specifics involved with spanking as a discipline teacher.

In my home we had a three swats rule.
Up to three swats on the behind (hand only) to set a child straight.
Only works up to a certain age.

Anything AFTER three and you are getting pleasure from hitting your kid and the only lesson you are teaching is that its okay to be sadistic. Its also important not to strike your child in anger. Part of being an adult is being able to control your emotions.

Discipline can be taught without physical pain.
The older the child the more effective reasonable consistency is in your manner with them.

No matter the method of punishment might be it is very important the child knows why they are being punished and how to change their behavior to prevent future problems.

As a parent/guardian it is your responsibility to teach your child proper behavior so they can be part of a society. Teach them to make the right decisions so the offenses do not become habits to get your attention.

While sometimes a spanking is the most effective way to discipline, you should have control of yourself and teach instead of hurt.
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klc

Wed 04/08/20 07:15 PM

teaches violence and the reason to NOT do certain things is fear rather than being the best person you can be.

discipline can be more valuable when it deals in exchanges, like if you break that rule, you will not get that toy, or you will have to do that chore. There should always be discussion about what went wrong and what would have been a better choice blah blah blah
Edited by klc on Wed 04/08/20 07:16 PM
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Mike

Wed 04/08/20 09:24 PM

How dare you think you or anybody has the right to abuse a child. They rely on us to nourish and protect them. No matter what they do, they never deserve to be hit by a brutal adult who lost control.

Go and beat yourself up or flagellate yourself with a barbed cat of nine tails and feel the pain you inflict on innocent children.

The question was puerile and offensive.

Nobody deserves any kind of a beating. Treat kids with respect and dignity.

I'm disgusted with some so called adults who lack empathy for children.
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msharmony

Wed 04/08/20 10:44 PM


How dare you think you or anybody has the right to abuse a child. They rely on us to nourish and protect them. No matter what they do, they never deserve to be hit by a brutal adult who lost control.

Go and beat yourself up or flagellate yourself with a barbed cat of nine tails and feel the pain you inflict on innocent children.

The question was puerile and offensive.

Nobody deserves any kind of a beating. Treat kids with respect and dignity.

I'm disgusted with some so called adults who lack empathy for children.


I was a child. No one 'flaggelated' me with a barbed cat of nine tails. I am not sure where they do that. Where I came from, swats on the behind was the extent of 'pain' inflicted. IT was never from losing control. IT is not necessarily any more empathetic to withhold a spanking than it is to give one. There is significant difference in spanking and BEATING.

I am not disgusted by any parent choosing what is working with THEIR child in a BALANCED environment of support and discipline, excepting those things that would reasonably cause LONG TERM physical harm, and which do more bad than good.

Edited by msharmony on Wed 04/08/20 11:15 PM
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Totage

Wed 04/08/20 11:33 PM


hi :v: i just want to know how do you think of spanking
IMO i think its work sometimes


Depends on the child and what is defined as spanking.