Oh, I don't know.
The further along I've come, the more I suspect that the subconscious/conscious concept is an oversimplification. Useful to recognize how we don't directly have our entire selves in one single level of awareness, but too limiting to accurately explain how an individual person behaves.
For one thing, calling it "subconscious" implies that it's all hidden from us, when it really isn't. Some is, to be sure, but a lot more isn't so much hidden, as it is like things in the background of a photograph. Everyone can see that while you're showing off the first cake you baked all on your own in the foreground, that your kid brother is calmly picking his nose and eating it in the background.
In other words, a lot of the time, what some people call "subconscious," is really just another part of what is quite conscious, but just not what's being focused on at the moment. But calling it "subconscious," can imply that a person isn't responsible for it, when they really are.
I understand what you imply.
Both elements of awareness exist at the same time.
One is directed action, the other is reflexive action.
If you watch the behavior of anyone long enough, you can see both elements at the same time.
A simple example is the fight or flight response.
Instinct makes us fight or flee in response to threats.
Conscious decision causes us to arrest that instinct despite our natural predisposition to fight or flee.
When afraid, we subconsciously change our bodies in readiness to fight or flee. Our heartbeat gets faster, our breathing gets deeper, our muscles tighten and we get wound up, ready for action.
Our conscious over-rides our subconscious and we start to calm ourselves.
If you ever watched someone watching a scary horror movie you see it clearly.
You can see similar examples in relationships.
Everyone knows about body language but few actually control it.
You can watch a video of a group of people around a firepit with the sound off and see the subconscious display of affection and rejection in their posturing. Sometimes it can be in direct contrast to what is said.
Like you said, we exist in a reality of conscious and subconscious at the same time. It is our wisdom and discipline which allows us to over-ride our subconscious urges.
Our conscious minds favor society and unity with others.
Our subconscious favors self.
Together they make up our awareness and cause our behavior.
Behavior is both learned and instinctual. Not either/or.