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Is there no similar advise for men? To me, it should apply to both genders.
Don't mean this in any disrespective way, but I don't think, women bond much sooner and easier. I know a few guys, including myself, who have no problems bonding soon and easy...even if there is the danger of false hope.
Anyways, here I might be a bit old fashioned. Once I feel a spiritual connection, I focus on that one girl. Well, whenever I am successful, she will get a very loyal guy.
The notion of women bonding first is nonsense; if anything, a modern woman with the history of many, many, many sexual partners is now incapable of forming a lasting pair-bond in monogamy. The so-called "C-Carousel".
Woman bonding first does show up in FwB situations; the friend providing the most "benefit" is going to garner the gal's thoughts the most.
This then screws up the whole FwB as the woman finds herself in love with a partner that was quite happy just being "the friend".
Women by nature's design were not built to be monogamous, that is a societal limit dropped on them.
It's in their base DNA; women HAVE to insure the survival of the species, no matter how many in the tribe she has to mate with to insure she provides strong offspring that have the best chance to survive.
This instinctual behavior can manifest itself in today's civilization, with too many women having the ability to turn love off like a light switch and run to another man regardless of conditions or circumstances.
Women probably don't understand themselves why they cheated on their husband of 40+ years for the pizza delivery boy; it just happened.
The serial dating behaviors discussed here should be applied equally to both genders. And sadly for many of the participants in OLD - this contributes to the need for a fast-pass to the STD labs.
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Skip
on Fri 05/08/20 08:42 PM