One of the reasons why the majority of us men avoid women with children is because children are extremely expensive and requires a lot of attention. Children always comes first which means we have to sacrifice everything else if need be.
What you're asking is for a man to help raise another man's child, which is a lot of effort, time, commitment and responsibility. Relationships is about give and take and that is a lot to ask from someone. Especially if the relationship you're looking for is to become serious. One timers will just lie to your face, bang and run.
On the bright side, there exists a lot of men that are willing to step into the father role, but if they're fertile you can expect them to want a child of their own as well. If you're not willing to have a second child with this man, then don't expect to have a relationship either. Maybe if the topic comes up that you have a child, you should be convincing in that you'd be open to the idea of having another one. Just don't lie about it.
I've seen plenty of single mothers saying they only want the child they have and no more. It's just not worthwhile when there's plenty of other women in existence that does not have these restrictions. The more limits we put on the compromises we could potentially be making, the less prospects we end up with to choose from.
Personally I would only take on a child that isn't mine if I already had children of my own and only if it were in an optimized setting where the child can benefit from my presence.
I'm certain you'll find what you're looking for in due time!
Edited by
zeeb
on Thu 09/12/24 12:04 PM
