Universal flirting sign ......
“First the woman smiles at her admirer and lifts her eyebrows in a swift, jerky motion as she opens her eyes wide to gaze at him.
Then she drops her eyelids, tilts her head down and to the side, and looks away.
Frequently she also covers her face with her hands, giggling nervously as she retreats behind her palms .
This sequential flirting gesture is so distinctive that [German ethologist Irenaus] Eibl-Eibesfeldt was convinced it is innate, a human female courtship ploy that evolved eons ago to signal sexual interest."
I think it is a little like this
followed by this
Haha, I'm not sure about the jerky eyebrow motion, but looking back I do all of the other things. It's not something I consciously think of doing, so maybe Irenaus Eibl-Eibesfeldt is correct about it being innate.
I agree the description sounds a little exaggerated, maybe the jerky eyebrow motion is just a nervous twitch?
I seem to have this part of the flirting down pat, maybe because it just come natural. It's after this part where I struggle and the whole thing generally comes to dead stop. I don't seem to be good at consciously flirting.
The last couple weeks at the store, I've been exchanging the smiling thing with a male customer, but it's starting to fizzle out because neither of us seem to know what to do next, lol. There's also the part where he told my co-worker she's looking beautiful today, but only seems to be able to smile and blush with me.
I guess I can take it as a bad thing or perhaps I just make him so nervous he's speechless, haha.
Either way, the whole flirting game frustrates me, most likely because I lack the confidence in my ability to do it effectively, I seldom get the results I'm hoping for.
Aww River as cute and sweet as you are........................well this brings so many things to mind I'll just let out a few thoughts in no specific order; if you've given this guy all these signals with no results he doesn't deserve you, perhaps he can't make a decision about himself like is he gay or not or does he want to start to cheat on his partner or not? Etc., etc. I'd say there's something involved that you don't know about. I used to know this couple about 25 years ago who were very happily marred and they were both exotic dancers and were such regular people you'd never guess about their profession, I kept running into them and in about a years time got to know them pretty well. Rick told me that he was always amazed at how poor women were at judging if guys were gay. He went on to say that among his peers (male exotic dancers) about 90% were gay and the women stuffing their panties full of bills almost never caught on.
I'm not saying that's the case with your possible squeeze just a could be combined with one of my flashbacks. Get more aggressive if you really want him to get the idea. Or...................
Awww, thanks Girth for your encouraging words. Nope, he's not gay! He's 61 yrs old, single, owns his own home, is originally from Italy, half Sicilian, half Portuguese, and very excited about me being single, lol.
I took your advice and got a little more aggressive in initiating conversation today!
Though I'm not sure I'm going to let him off the hook for telling my co-worker the other day that she's looking beautiful when all I got was a "You have a nice smile".
But back on topic, I feel the same as Crystal... it's not something you think about, it just happens. When it comes naturally to me, it does feel good and is much more effective than when I try to think about consciously flirting. That's when it's a disaster and most likely why I end up feeling I'm just not good at it. And I'm not, I can't purposely be flirtatious, it seems phony to me somehow and always ends up backfiring on me.