That is a very insightful post, Cleve. I think people do cling to past hurts and feelings. Its quite possible to throw out all that garbage but it takes time and effort. And first it takes realizing that you don't have to react in the same ways over and over. I have broken many long term habits but Its a constant effort. You don't just say I'm over it, you work on it every day.
I'm not a bit depressed over the holidays even though I'm by myself today. I visit friends and talk on the phone, no family so no reason for a get together. Plus the politicians warn we will all die if we have big family meetings, lol
Instead of moaning over what we don't have, make a list of all the good things you do have. A few suggestions: You live in a free country and can say what you like, lots of opportunity, no wars going on, no sirens in the night and get under the bed. If you have a job appreciate it even if its not the job you wanted. Are you in good health? That is #1 most important thing, your health is your wealth. You have friends, associates, places to go and things to do. Not everyone has those things, some have none of them
love is a inside job, we must love ourselves first to be able to love
another.....its like ''i am o.k. and your o.k. ''. we do not take the time to
get to really know how women think and feel...and women do not either about
us ...we are not the same we have different hormones running around in our
bodies ...we taken in info differently then process it differently then throw
in culture misconceptions .....we must start really listening to each other
if this to stop....first we listen for the sense the other is making to
themselves and not the sense it makes to us. they are not us...and all allow
there opinions and beliefs to stand....there are 2 more steps to this and
your connected....later.,....