The assumption that men, or women, who are married and look outside their marriage for friends and/or companions are simply nasty people "cheating" on their spouse. It's not always so.
"Get a divorce first" is not always the answer. It may be if a couple are absolutely incompatible. But sometimes there are legal problems, financial problems, financial obligations or something else that makes divorce impractical to impossible.
I really don't care what people think of me but it's unfair to judge anybody when you've not walked in their shoes. Not all men are "pigs" looking for a little on the side. Some are just trapped in bad situations. That's all marriage is to me, a trap.
Dude, your excuses are so scripted. Admit it to yourself. You are too scared to leave. Sorry, but l don't feel sorry for you. One wonders why you married if you think it is a 'trap'. Get a divorce and you might discover happiness. Cheers
I just saw your profile and you and I totally agree with what you said