So...hi...I wonder if you got my post...if your kids are fighting badly they may need counseling from a pro...a child psychologist or psychiatrist if they are threatening each others' lives and destroying things...you can also try to send one by some other relative or adult they trust and you trust for a cool off time but be very cautious of this cause sometimes these people are the ones who molest your kids and they never tell cause they are threatened so...you decide...if you pray then by all means pray about it and pray with them and look up scripture that teaches about love and brotherhood/sisterhood and read it with them.
It also helps some times to give them a challenge and promise a reward you can actually really give them if they meet the challenge_ no fights for a week = a treat; give them something to do together and if they do it without a row give them something they want badly that you can give and not be sorry for later.
Peace comes when kids are assured of their individual worth and value and that they are loved. It also comes when you give them separate rooms or beds or changing areas or something that they are fighting FOR.
Give them each time with you alone and reinforce the bond you have- adoptees suffer from adopted child syndrome already and a kid who has not accepted an adoptee or an adoptee who bullies a birth child is serious.
If your issue is not fighting kids...then...What do you need help with?
Edited by
Veronica Adele
on Fri 03/05/21 05:48 PM