Thank you to the group creator(s),
I find my situation unique- and realize that part of this could be due to the fact that I do not talk about it for the shame and guilt which overwhelms me when I say: I am the mother of the two most amazing boys but their father has FT custody. I immediately sense judgement.
What remains unsaid is that I single-handedly raised them for 7 years while my ex took a free ride; he became monstrously abusive- but I gave my word in saying I do. When I reached needing by, went to ER- where he had me served. He had been busy- court order I was no longer allowed in my own home and he took full custody of my children having concocted fanciful story of incapacity on my part and his concern for their safety (whom I had had even just the day before and no concern). He had never been alone with them for more than three hours. And I quickly learned he had cyphoned all of our money.
Did I fight for them? Hell yeah- to bankruptcy.
I am a mother who raised amazing children. I see them - at his leisure. It is humiliating to say.
Is this how men feel in the opposite situation?
Heya MuseOutsideTheLines,
It is a great thread isn't it?
It makes everyone realise that even after divorce there is hope for everyone...
Sorry to read your story, sounds pretty sad to be honest...
I don't doubt it, and can believe it, my ex said I threatened to burn down the house, in the divorce papers, it's pure BS and I even told her, if I contest this in a divorce courts, the police records will be checked, and there won't be any record of you phoning the police, so understand that lies won't benefit you... I tried to make her see that BS that some point or other will be discovered for the bull chit that it is, usually when the children are old enough to understand...
Now the kids are grown up, they know the truth, but I would never slag her down to the kids... Its simple, she is their mother, we had some good times, and when the bad times came, she ditched, and that's all there is to it...
So although I was hurt by her lies, I do not let it worry me, the world is big, there are lots of potential partners, and my children will ALWAYS be my children, even if she remarries, and I just get on with living life...
Your children too will grow up and they will know right from wrong, truth from lies, so try not to dwell on it and Good luck to you too...
