Topic: social disorder
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i_do_care(Sid)

Wed 01/05/22 03:15 AM

sometimes it becomes difficult to talk in public not because I cant speak efficiently but like social disorder , anxiety how u guys
cop u with it??
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Drhopefrosh

Wed 01/05/22 07:49 PM

Bro that happens to me all the time. It's probably because you have intelligent thoughts that aren't worth sharing with anyone, but in confidence.

My personal strategy is sticking to light banter that is both pleasant and impersonal - the weather, the news, sports, entertainment, best gay fashion magazine subscriptions. True crime, fan fiction, novels, comics, movies, ***** and balls.
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Tom4Uhere

Wed 01/05/22 10:18 PM

I took public speaking classes with Dale Carnegie Institute in the early 90s.

Personally, I've never really had problems speaking in public. In high school I rather enjoyed the role of 'class clown'.

Anxiety is a real issue for some. Perhaps you could speak with a councilor or join a group?

There are a number of books/websites on public speaking and building confidence.

You might also be suffering from low self-esteem.
There are books/websites for that as well. In severe cases it might be best to talk with a professional.

In public speaking, its best to be familiar with what you intent to talk about. Its okay to practice and take notes.

In one on one interactions its best to just be yourself and allow what you want to say flow freely. Being careful to use tact and matching body language.

If you are talking with a date, treat them like a friend. Its okay to be a lil vulnerable. Honesty will open doors needing to be opened. Just realize sometimes no matter what you say or do won't fix incompatibility.
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Thu 01/06/22 10:28 AM

Be more specific. PRoblems in public can be in front of a group or in a group or one on one conversation.
What are you talking about?

Also, problems speaking up and getting anxiety because of it has to do with self-esteem issues.
If you want it to become easier work on that.
It also helps if you have something going in your life that you could talk about. Can be books, movies, sports, whatever floats your boat.
If you have nothing then you also have nothing to talk about which will increase the anxiety.

But work on self-esteem issues. Get a coach or a group session thing for that.
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Richard

Thu 01/06/22 11:41 AM

https://www.onhealth.com/content/1/social_phobias_-_fear_of_gatherings

it's OK to have anxiety when in groups or meeting new people. just dont let it end up controlling you.
keep trying to push past it.
remember, you are likely not the only one that is nervous you are new to them too.
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Rock

Thu 01/06/22 07:55 PM

Some may call it a form of 'stage fright'.
I would tend to agree.

While not an uncommon condition, there are
many ways to overcome.