the people who I have pleasent things to say to, have made it impossible to message them.
I understand that many people are rude and obscene, and I understand that you don't want be bothered by people who are trying to catch a fish that has already been caught, but we are here to make friends and share ideas.
don't let them stop you from getting messages from would be friends or even people that just want to say something on a personal level.
your missing out.
I wasn't even talking about people I was romantically interested in, some people just have like minds and you it would be nice to make friends that's all.
and I've never messaged them before so they didn't block me specifically, they just don't except messages from anyone.
I'm mostly here to make friends, and enjoy the forums
Joined Wed 01/19/22 Posts: 34
DMG, I understand what you are saying.
The thing is, what some of the participants to this thread have already said is accurate.
Mingle2 is a dating/social site.
The way I see it, there's the dating side and then there is the community forums whch serves as the social side.
You have two tools to choose from. Expecting a saw to be a hammer doesn't really work too well. You can use a saw as a hammer but it isn't very good at it.
If you are looking for someone to 'date' use the dating side.
If you are looking for conversation and general friendships use the forums.
What you can do when you see a profile which inspires you to converse, you can send them a message on a subject and refer them to the forum side of the site.
It helps even more when you start a thread in the forums first, establish a conversation then 'link' them to that discussion in the forums.
Then, if they are interested in the subject matter but not you as a potential date, they can join the discussion with you on a platonic (friendship) level.
Its also important to remember people come and go from this site without notice.
Back when
Date Hookup went belly up, there was an influx of new participants in the forums. Over time, many have left Mingle forums yet still have an inactive profile on the dating side.
One last thing, ya gotta realize everyone who is active in the forums are active for their own reasons...same with the dating side. Its best to forego general conclusions and expectations and take each one as a unique individual. While some may seem stereotypical, in reality we are all unique.
Edited by
Tom4Uhere
on Tue 02/01/22 08:20 AM