Been in that position before fir me it is not an issue ,we are all unique and beauty is only skin deep ,what matters more is the heart of the individual ,I've meet what women would call attractive men and most are arrogant which in turn makes them ugly inside ,so to cut a long story short ,all that matters is we are all one of a kind and we should embrace each other ,feel for one another and unite in unconditional love for each other ,and I don't mean sexually ,I mean in feelings ,I'm a man who adores a woman as a partner but still we should show love and kindness to each other in life no matter what gender we meet that has that so called attractive look .

I compare myself to myself, or to the universe, but not to other people, so it is not an issue for me.



This is attractive
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=uCiI39JFudo

If I feel like they would have better options than me, I definitely do not get attached to them. But when I see someone like that, or a beautiful couple, inside I am thinking “ Lord thank you for making the human race.“

There was a brief few minutes in my life one time when I envied someone for choosing to be happy.

Until I laughed at myself for the absurdity of that thinking.

There is, always will be and always has been someone smarter, better looking, taller, faster, more knowledgeable, etc. than me. Part of becoming a man is to accept this and still feel confident in whom you are; still admire the person you are. 'Out-alpha-ed'? Tss, there is no thing as this alpha concept, no man (or woman) is on top everywhere and all the time.

When I am in an arena and mood when I feel genuinely confident, I have noticed I draw people (men and women, generally for differing reasons) to me. I suppose the naive might think at that moment I am the 'alpha male' but the next day I might be feeling lost and unsure in an environment I am unused to .. and nobody would look at me (or I might hope they won't, anyway).

As a man who has often been out with very beautiful women (despite my own looks, not because of them) I am used to my partner noticing other men. Why wouldn't she? I notice other women. It is not looking that matters, it's what a person does about it. Faithfulness is not about the lack of attraction elsewhere, it is about the lack of action despite that attraction.

Good topic!