Topic: Scientific use of community relationships to enhance mental
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LarchTree

Sun 05/08/22 10:52 AM

The only needs I am aware of that require other people are significance and connection. A way to achieve connection is acceptance. If that were the objective sought for in community relationships, it would help make them more efficient. You all’s guidance helped me figure this out. Thank you all.
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Tom4Uhere

Mon 05/09/22 08:31 AM

significance and connection

Self-Significance is directly related to ego and self-esteem. Significance is rooted in need.

Connection is directly related to human existence because human beings are social animals. Our social nature roots in the fact we tend to actively raise our children, we create families and seek out friends.

Our need for connection drives our need for significance but significance also drives our connection. They are directly related.

In most cases,
As a newborn you are significant to your parents. As you develop your parents are significant to you.
The connection bond between child and parent establishes the family integrity.

As we age (grow) we surround ourselves with people, places, things and routines which are significant (provide for a need or support our egos). Connection is formed when we provide significance for the other and they provide significance to us.

Connection can be broken if one side of that significance becomes insignificant.

We connect with our BFF because they are important to us.
We connect with our lovers because they are important to us.
We connect with our spouse because they are important to us.
When the importance (significance) is both ways or connection is strong but if that importance wanes on one side or the other, not only do we 'feel' the change, it breaks down the integrity of the connection.

In social society, life communities and groups the significance you garner is usually based on how important you are to that establishment. It is directly related to your impact on the welfare of that group. You may not feel connected to every individual of that group the same degree. The individuals of that group may not be connected to you in the same degree but the significance of your contribution to that group keeps you connected to all in some degree. When your significance to the group wanes or ends, the connection is lost.

We do not become leaders without significance and connection.
We do not become friends without significance and connection.
We do not become lovers without significance and connection.

When we sense we are not significant to anyone around us we lose our ability to connect.
When we lose our ability to connect, we feel insignificant.
This directly impacts our ego and self-esteem which can cause us to feel insignificant to ourselves. Depression can result.

Depression is self-supporting. Feeling insignificant causes lost connection which causes insignificance which causes lost connection.
Its a downward spiral of depression. Loneliness is but one aspect of this.
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LarchTree

Mon 05/09/22 01:48 PM

I wish there was a like button.

To be honest I have a man-crush (I wish I could be you) quite often.
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LarchTree

Mon 05/09/22 01:54 PM

You being part of the human race is good for all of us.

Thanks so much for the help.

Thank you you being you.
Edited by LarchTree on Mon 05/09/22 02:21 PM
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LarchTree

Mon 05/09/22 02:17 PM

I am glad your DNA is out there, that is good for all of us in the community.
Edited by LarchTree on Mon 05/09/22 02:19 PM
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LarchTree

Mon 05/09/22 02:19 PM

I have been in the mental health forum lately.