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Mike6615

Wed 06/15/22 01:42 PM

We also must respect those non-drinkers who are recovering alcoholics. For them, it they take one drink, they could backslide.

It would bother me if a potential partner would not come to a pub or bar with me. Not that I go a lot but it is a social thing I do sometimes, and sometimes I go because I want a pint of beer.

Similarly with drinks at home. I bought 6 bottles of beer for Christmas, didn't touch them until March and still have one left in June. Those bottles are there for when I want one. It would not bother me to be the only one drinking beer (since I don't drink beer to get into an alternate state of being) but would concern me if having beer around was an issue.

If my potential partner was an ex-alcoholic .. then my house would be emptied of alcohol if they wanted it so. I have a friend who has to be careful of what brand of mouthwash he buys, which helps me understand about the needs of an addict.

Which brings me on to consider someone for whom a drink is more important than the personality of a potential partner. Well, it might sound nasty of me but I'll say it: that could be the reason they are still single, which could be the reason you seem to have come across a rash of them. Demanding/expecting that a partner drinks sounds very strange, or at least very juvenile.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Wed 06/15/22 02:05 PM

I only drink maybe once a year if that. I know this question is for the guys, but I don't care if the guy drinks occasionally, but I don't want a sloppy drunk.

Last time I drank was February 2020... Before that 2-3 years. My husband didn't drink at all.

Seems most here are on the same page :)
It's pretty much the same for me, occasionally which can be once a year, or maybe less.
Wine is generally speaking a no-go for me as I really am under the table with a few sips. Esp red wine. And certainly if someone wants to drink that with dinner as then I am hungry, empty stomach. If I then drink a few sips of wine before I got some food in me, pffff...

The only thing that I can drink more of are drinks like Baileys or Sheridans. Gimme a bottle of Sheridans and damn, I WILL drink a couple of glasses, hihi. Somehow my body seems to react different to that kind of alcohol. I hardly ever drink those things btw. But they're the few alcoholic drinks I can appreciate.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Wed 06/15/22 02:05 PM

We also must respect those non-drinkers who are recovering alcoholics. For them, it they take one drink, they could backslide.

Sure, but I don't think we have that problem so much over here.

Vincent

Wed 06/15/22 02:46 PM

I don't care if they drink or not as long as she doesn't have a problem with her drinking habit if she drinks. I smoke weed, but I don't mind if my girlfriend does not.

Unknow

Wed 06/15/22 05:58 PM

I prefer a woman who does not drink much,
occasionally is fine.
In the winter months I drink whiskey mainly because I get stir crazy from not being outdoors daily. In the summer I drink beer, but only on really hot days when I've drank a lot of water and can't stand drinking anymore water.
No as a deak breaker if the woman doesn't drink alcohol.

Duttoneer

Thu 06/16/22 01:19 AM

In a dating site questionnaire as you describe, maybe the question asked "What do you like to drink" the drinking of alcohol is more associated with the social aspect, many people socialize by visiting pubs, bars, night clubs, and restaurants, and may assume, rightly or wrongly, none drinkers are less likely to want to socialize in the same way, that they are in some ways less social than they are.

On a dating site in a member's profile answer, it's more of a general sense in my opinion. I don't think it matters much as a preference between occasional drinkers of alcohol, and those that never drink alcohol, but it is a preference, and what a person understands 'occasional drinking' means.

Dating a partner who drinks alcohol on a regular basis would be high maintenance in my mind.

Edited by Duttoneer on Thu 06/16/22 02:04 AM

Rock

Fri 06/17/22 07:48 PM

I've posted numerous times in the past,
that I prefer date NON DRINKERS.

Whilst I don't judge others for what they do in
their personal lives, away from me.

If, I were to actually date a drinker,
I'd prefer she be a happy, friendly drunk.
As I cannot stand a mean or sloppy drunk.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Sat 06/18/22 01:47 AM

I'm allergic to drunken people too.
Many men then think they're god's gift to women and start to harass you.
Many women get all whingy & whiny and turn into regular cry babies. Or they do the same as men and get all flirty with men, even another woman's man.

When I go out to the pub I usually leave before most get to that state so I'm not bothered by it :)

I think the worst I've ever seen was in the UK when the pubs still had to close at 11. Because of that everyone drank like an idiot to get as much alcohol in before the pub closed. Then, 11 o'clock, most leave in a serious drunken state.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Sat 06/18/22 01:52 AM

Isn't it weird though that our societies associate having a good time with alcohol?
It never meant that to me, not even when I was a teenager.
I remember going to a club with my bestie, club for 16-18jr olds. At some point most everyone was drunk, except for me and my bestie.
I remember looking at the crowd, their idiotic behaviour and being appalled. We left because of it. For me the fun has gone when most are in that state.

bobtail76

Sat 06/18/22 08:19 AM

Alcohol does different things to different people. You get the crying drunk, the angry drunk, the " I love you man" drunk, etc. You can't say what you're gonna get just by looking at a sober person. That being said, these generalizations towards people that drink, are inaccurate - in that, these are YOUR experiences. There are always the easy bad examples, and you can generalize that alcohol does inebriate ALL people somehow, but the reactions of each individual will be different. Perhaps all the people you hang around are axxholes - it just takes the drinking to get it out. I think booze just brings out a suppressed personality to a certain degree. I personally believe alcohol has nothing to do with the person's behavior. It's just a catalyst to unleash somebody that's always been there.

As for your example Crystal, I feel as though your ex just likes beer. It's nice to go out on a patio and sample some different craft beer. I'm sure you had hobbies that he didn't like doing as well. It's just easy for you to take a big giant shlt on him because there's booze involved (and the fact he's an ex) - which you are against. Sampling beer is a hobby just as much as sampling food. I'm sure
you'd be fine with that. I'm sure he just wanted to share his hobby with you.

Is it a dealbreaker? I think it depends on her attitude. If I can take her to a pub and she can still have a good time without drinks, bring her on! But if she's gonna sit there judging people and calling them idiots for having fun, she can beat it. I like going to a pub and playing pool, doing karaoke and all that stuff a pub offers. It would be more fun if I can bring a sweetie to help enjoy it with. Campfires, Sports games, Christmas, and Mexico are all the more fun with drinks and those are SOME of the things I like to do. Even more with a special someone.

As for Soufie.... clothes falling off is my favorite drunk! You may be suppressing a really free bird. drinker

SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Sat 06/18/22 08:30 AM

Could you actually read what is being asked and not draw conclusions based on nothing, at least nothing to do with me. Seems you're projected and taking it out on me.

It'd suffice to answer a genuine question. No one needs a lecture, certainly not from someone who didn't get/read the OP & question and is just lashing out.
And if you cannot simply answer a question in a respectful way, maybe skip the topic.