I seem to be in great demand in Asia,
Latina countries hold me in high regard,
African beauties greet me hello each day ..
but it would seem the closer i get to home,the less attractive i become
is attraction culture based?
is perception of beauty different elsewhere?
the third option ofcourse is the dreaded "SCAM"
i would like to ignore the third option and consider...
what is attraction?
and
is it linked to culture ?
that depends what you consider culture as .. in my mind culture is not just ethnicity it is a group that shares something in common . For example the culture of being a parent , a sibling , a student , of being single ,being a member of a group whether political , religious , common interest or social etc . If culture was the ultimate determinant in attraction then your theory should demonstrate that the closer you get to home the more successful you should be with dating endeavours . I am sure to some culture is a big influencer but attraction has many catalysts . Attraction plays a role not just in romantic connections but also social connections .
As for online .. if you consider that internet dating only really took off in the 1900’s . Prior to that meeting other cultures largely depended on travel . The online world exposes us to a multicultural experience . Social platforms allow people to experiment with and consider other cultures . When it comes to attraction .. intention is a strong driver . For example if someone seeks only friendship .. what attracts them to someone to interact with is likely different to what would attract them
If they were seeking a romantic attraction . Likewise if the intention is to better a living situation/lifestyle someone they perceive as being able to support them could become a stronger driver for attraction than romantic preferences .
Although rather cynical .. the online dating world is a risky environment which lends itself not just to experimentation but also fantasy , allowing people to act and be who they want to be .. rather than who they are . (One reason why face to face meets can be so disappointing ).
Romantic attraction is multifaceted and unique for each person. Even those who claim to prioritise personality over looks .. overlook the importance of physical and involuntary chemical reactions when it comes to arousal . All are necessary components for successful “romantic” attraction .
As for why you are besieged by Asian , Latin and African beauties there is also another consideration .. perhaps the Irish reputation for humour is a strong attractant .. after all., in the dating world humour seems to be a sort after attribute