How much does someone's name (subconsciously) make you pass on a potential new person, or go for him/her? Whether real name or nickname?

If someone has the same name as your ex... does that matter to you or not at all?

Are some nicknames off-putting or maybe even appealing to you?
And not meaning the very sexual ones as it's quite logical that would be off-putting to most everyone.


Personally I find it awkward when someone has the same name as an ex. In a way confusing.
And one name I don't want in a partner anymore, which is Nick. I've had a partner whose name was Nick, his daughter's was Nikki and he called her "Nick". My own son's name is Nick, so there were 3 Nicks in the house. No one knew who was being called.
The name of my next partner's daughter was Nicki. My jaw dropped when I heard that.

I've now decided, no more Nick, except for my son!

When it comes to nicknames, often someone's state of mind can be told from that as it's a clear projection of their pain point.

So to me it does make a difference whether I will or won't go for someone. It's something that happens whether I like it or not.


How bout you?

yes, I passed on 5 people, with same exact name as my ex, while I have no issue replacing, I cant replace with someone with same name, it would be too awkward. to say their name & have a flashback, it would be disrespectful to new person.

In my 6 decades I've had many nicknames, a few 'pet' names and three proper names.

My actual name is Thomas, my parents called me Tommy (and a few early GFs) and most people call me Tom.

Nicknames are mainly work/school & social names given by friends or co-workers.

'Pet' names are terms of endearment usually given by those who love you.

My family had a close friendship with a family when the kids were younger.
The dad's name as David. I called him David. David's son was also David. We all called him Davy when he was young and Dave when he named his son David, whom we then called Davy.

I've had GFs in my life which, while I knew their given names, I only called them by the pet names I gave them.

My current GF and I don't use any names. Its usually just the two of us and we don't need names because if we are talking, we are talking to each other. Neither of us talk to each other's backs or mumble complaints.
We actually enjoy each other's company.

In public, we use pet names, she calls me Tom and I call her by her first name.

Since I never really called my X by her given name, other women who have the same name have no impact on me. Besides, I know other women are not the same personality as her (which is a good thing).

I tend to remember people's names by associating their facial features to the name they tell me when we meet. After a bond is formed and I am comfortable in their presence, I nickname them.
If I still call you by the first name you told me, I either don't know you very well or I don't care to know you any better.

I dated a girl my freshman year of college named Nicky. I called her "KiKi" (KeeKee). She liked the name so much she adopted it as her regular nickname.

Two of my oldest son's friends used to hang out at the house. I know their names but I called them "Pete" and "Repeat" because everytime I saw then one, the other was sure to follow.

One of my boys had a girlfriend named Ashley. She had rather large breasts for her age, I called her "Milk".

My daughter's friend was Native American. I used to call her "Sacagawea". A different friend of hers I called "Couch" because as soon as she got to the house she immediately sat on the sofa.

I don't give a fart what someones chooses to call themselves. Ell I'd date a woman named ----head if she was fun to be with and the sex was good.

good question.

I would find it a little odd to be with someone with the same name as an ex....or the typical stripper name.

I easily tend to give someone a pet name when I care about them. But not everyone appreciates that.
I've been with a partner who hated it and I made a point to not do that anymore and use his proper name.
I also had a pet name for my daughter which I have used every now and then ever since she was little. The other day she told me she really doesn't like it. So I've stopped using it.

I can appreciate a pet name, but not all the time, nor an abbreviation of my name used all the time. When I was with that one ex, everyone called me "Angel". At some point I was utterly fed up with no one using my full name anymore. To the point that if I answered the phone with my name people thought they'd dialled the wrong number!!
When I left that partner I made it a point to not use that name myself anymore, not even to sign my paintings, which I used to do.
If someone now uses the abbreviation "Angel" I am not happy.

So over the years I've become more careful with it myself too. Not everyone likes it!

I'm sure it's all personal choices.... I guess we can't assume.