Topic: Women and the 1st move
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Tom4Uhere

Mon 02/27/23 06:00 AM

Sadly, men have gotten a bad rap in trying to find someone new.
At one time in my career I was a compliance manager at a large company. Its scary how they define sexual harassment and its terrifying how men can be ruined over the chase, often very publicly.

When I worked the public sector they has policy nearly as frightening concerning pursuing a date.

Sexual harassment laws favor the woman. Not to say men are not sexually harassed, women get the publicity.

According to the companies I've worked with, you can ask a woman out on a date once. If she says no or doesn't answer, asking her again is technically sexual harassment. Pursuing her is sexual harassment. Plus, it isn't limited to the workplace. If you catch up with her at a gas station after work and start to woo her and she isn't interested but actually says nothing to you, its still sexual harassment.

Putting the legalities aside, women tend to see a man 'chasing' her as a perv. Sometimes they tell their friends about "that perv is at it again" while deep inside they're thinking "I wonder if I'll see him again today?"
Its all a big game rooted from the high school mentality.

The head games used in dating is childish nonsense. Its my experience, if I like someone I tell them. If they do not respond, or I get a cold shoulder...I am no longer interested.
Its called honesty.

Personally, I don't care who makes the 1st move. As long as its an actual, honest and purposeful move, I'll know where I stand. If its a game, I'll pass.
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JulieABush

Mon 02/27/23 12:44 PM

Sorry you went through that Tom. If a guy at work were to ask me out on a date I wouldn’t consider that sexual harassment and all it takes is a yes/no answer from the woman. If he would make a physical pass at me is what I would consider sexual harassment. Some women now a days take things like that too far when they shouldn’t. No reason to be mean about it just answer the question, simple as that.