honestly I wrote this at a rather down point and generally this is more of my attitude I did word it rather poorly wh I had hoped to start was a discussion regarding the topic
The point I was trying to make, considering this is primarily a dating site, is stating you are disabled as a method to gain a date is different from being disabled and being able to function despite that fact. In the latter case, the disability is is merely a state of fact.
From reading your comments in this discussion I clearly see your disability is a big part of your depression. You have allowed your self-esteem to take a hit. This is you placing your disability (and depression) more important than finding someone who accepts you as you are.
The act of being yourself is clouded by your need to focus on the disability and the resulting depression is fed by the disability.
Fixing your depression is more than just telling yourself stories to try to make yourself feel better. It needs to be an internally honest discipline to function despite your disability.
The self-honesty is crucial to finding your healthy self-esteem...not because of your disability but because inside you will know you are more than that disability.
Its better to display what you are than what you are not. If you point out your disability and focus on it to all you meet, they WILL focus on it. If you point out and focus on what you are really good at, they will focus on that. Then if the disability gets in the way, you can talk honestly about it.
If someone truly cares for you, they will care for you with or without the disability. You don't have to point it out, just don't lie about it if they ask.