There are pages after pages of written tips and tricks to finding your perfect match.

"Do this - Don't do that"

Loneliness and desperation often causes people to seek out any 'golden rule' or 'magic pill' as a sure fix to finally find that perfect match.

The way I see it, nobody on this planet can possibly know exactly what you want or need in a person except you.
No one is more qualified to know you than you.

If you go out looking for a date or a special someone you are attempting to make an expectation a reality but reality doesn't work that way.

You can go down a checklist and tick all the boxes and still remain lonely and frustrated.

Just because someone somewhere found someone using a method doesn't mean you will by using that same method.

Using dating advice sets you up for negative outcomes which can affect your peace of mind, self-esteem, financial and emotional security, friendships and might even lead to depression.

You have to keep it simple.
You have to be open to new possibilities.
You have to pay attention to other people.

Living your life, doing what you would normally do and not focusing on every potential date is how reality actually works.
You just be yourself but be attentive to your surroundings.

When people are attracted to one another they give off signals which may or may not be conscious actions.
Many times, people who are attracted to one another, who may be perfectly matched...may not be aware of that attraction because it is subtle and not specifically covered in that dating advice column you might be reading or that dating video you like to watch.

You may not realize it but every relationship (outside family) starts with some type of attraction. Even platonic relationships.

Sometimes we set our sights too high.
Sometimes we tell ourselves we are not worthy.
Sometimes we hide from the world behind distractions of our own making.

Chances are you probably go to the same stores.
You probably get fuel at the same gas stations.
You probably drive a set route, walk the same path and entertain yourself the same way.

Its almost certain someone has noticed you.
They probably shop the same stores, fuel up at the same stations and walk the same paths.
They might have noticed you.
You might have noticed them.
The fact you haven't connected could be something as simple as a smile.
You may be so preoccupied with something else you never even look to see if they are noticing you.
So, you stay alone.
You keep working the 'plan'.
(A 'plan' which isn't really working)

Perhaps you are popular online?
Lots of friends.
Virtual dating.
Phone calls.
Video chats.
BUT...
Are you still longing for that special person in your life?
Are you still alone with life?

Here's some advice...take it or don't.

Live your life.
Be you.
Do what you do.
Be how you are.
Stop expecting that fantasy.
Seek out and recognize the reality.
And most of all...
If you find someone checking you out...SMILE.

Amazing! When the time is right I must follow your tips haha. thanks a lot!