I've been wondering what people nowadays think about relationships. Do you believe the man is the head of the house, the leader, and the wife submits to him as his helpmeet? Like, that's what the Bible says, but it seems like so many people find that as old fashioned. As for me, I think the Bible is as up to date as ever, and life would be better if we followed it. What do you all think?
I think it's up to the individuals. If you're happy taking a more passive role in a relationship, that's what you should do. No reason to take on a role that you don't want.
I've tried it both ways. When I was a young mother I was a stay-at-home-mom for eight years. I was MISERABLE. For me, I'm not at my best if I don't work, if I don't feel like I have my own identity besides "wife" and "mother". I need a fulfilling career to be happy. Looking back, I think I did my kids a huge disservice, in staying home. I was depressed, had low self-esteem, and I felt totally dependent on my husband. When a person is not at their best, they are not the best role model for their children. Now my kids respect me a lot more because I'm educated and have a career that I love. I'm just happier having more facets to my identity.
Since my marriage ended, I have never entertained the idea of dating someone who valued traditional gender roles. I'm not interested. I might bake the cookies and decorate the house (because I enjoy it and he doesn't) and he might look after the cars and the finances (because he enjoys it and I don't). But otherwise I want a relationship where my partner values my intelligence, feels like my career is as important as his, and treats me as an equal partner.
Edited by
Dramatic Muffin
on Sun 08/20/23 05:20 AM