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Blondey111

Sat 08/26/23 06:16 PM

Do men ever say NO to sex ?

If so , how do you tell your love interest that you are not in the mood biggrin

I just can’t imagine a man saying “not tonight sweetheart I have a headache “lmao
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Mike6615

Sat 08/26/23 06:33 PM


Do men ever say NO to sex ?

If so , how do you tell your love interest that you are not in the mood biggrin

I just can’t imagine a man saying “not tonight sweetheart I have a headache “lmao


If it was offered a bit too early, I'd say, "No, I don't know you enough and you don't know me enough."
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motowndowntown

Sat 08/26/23 06:59 PM

Sometimes a guy just wants to have a beer and a really good sandwich and watch footie on the tele.
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Mr Good Guy

Sat 08/26/23 08:03 PM


Do men ever say NO to sex ?

If so , how do you tell your love interest that you are not in the mood biggrin

I just can’t imagine a man saying “not tonight sweetheart I have a headache “lmao
All men are different. Some have a high sex drive, others medium, others low. Some are not attracted to their partners. I've said no many times, mostly due to not being attracted or to losing attraction over time.
Edited by Mr Good Guy on Sat 08/26/23 08:03 PM
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Rock

Sat 08/26/23 10:02 PM

I hate to be 'that' guy.
But, sex is only a small part of intimacy.

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Mark Grant

Sun 08/27/23 03:25 AM

Do men ever say NO to sex ?

If so , how do you tell your love interest that you are not in the mood :grin:

I just can’t imagine a man saying “not tonight sweetheart I have a headache “lmao

yes I would just be straight up and say it's too early for that level of intimacy
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Mark Grant

Sun 08/27/23 03:29 AM

All men are different. Some have a high sex drive, others medium, others low. Some are not attracted to their partners. I've said no many times, mostly due to not being attracted or to losing attraction over time.

true
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Jaan Doh

Sun 08/27/23 03:34 AM


Do men ever say NO to sex ?

If so , how do you tell your love interest that you are not in the mood biggrin

I just can’t imagine a man saying “not tonight sweetheart I have a headache “lmao


Guys can learn from the ladies...
Hence my reply...

Not tonight darling, I'm washing my hair :joy:🤣
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Lonelynbk

Sun 08/27/23 11:46 PM

yes we do. ......the game is on. fixing something in the house. hanging with the kids. I'm tired. I worked s long day.
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Dramatic Muffin

Mon 08/28/23 06:14 AM

Some do! Like 12 years ago I dated a guy who I'm pretty sure was asexual. He didn't want to do anything more than kiss occasionally and hold hands. Yeah... he was not a good match for me. bigsmile
Edited by Dramatic Muffin on Mon 08/28/23 06:16 AM
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Todor

Mon 08/28/23 08:39 AM

I've think have a lot of reasons some man to reject offer for sex from some woman. The place might be reason... Not all people are ready to be little more public as well sometimes you can be arrested by police for this. Might exist place which the women to like as well the men to not like so much... Some males needs of motivation... This might be very different things like the lady outfit or the needs to drinking something interesting... beer, some wine or something other else. The food or eating also help how we feel for future actions. So some food might be bad as well others might be good... If someone eating bad food then don't expect something big to happen. If some man have too much sexual contacts per week then that might be understandable reason. This might mean cheater or man with not enough power, energy. If someone is serious and make some projects or homework seriously then rejectings might be more often...
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GUPTA JI

Mon 08/28/23 09:32 AM

You feel men are not human, they want and need when he desires something, not always in mood of sex. Be ashamed of your ignorance and perception of Men.
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bobtail76

Mon 08/28/23 07:33 PM

It's pretty easy to say no... Especially if they are using it for leverage. It will definitely pizz her off.
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Unknow

Tue 08/29/23 12:41 AM

Yes
NO!




ot: sounds like someone isn't getting enough "cardio" time in ?
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Riverspirit1111

Tue 08/29/23 02:47 AM


Some do! Like 12 years ago I dated a guy who I'm pretty sure was asexual. He didn't want to do anything more than kiss occasionally and hold hands. Yeah... he was not a good match for me. bigsmile


Glad to see I'm not the only one that happened to, lol. Although back then I hadn't thought of asexual on his part, I took it somewhat personal. That for some reason I just didn't ignite that spark of passion within him. The baffling part was that his behavior before we became a couple suggested the total opposite.

Definitely doesn't work for me either. laugh bigsmile
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Dramatic Muffin

Tue 08/29/23 04:01 AM



Some do! Like 12 years ago I dated a guy who I'm pretty sure was asexual. He didn't want to do anything more than kiss occasionally and hold hands. Yeah... he was not a good match for me. bigsmile


Glad to see I'm not the only one that happened to, lol. Although back then I hadn't thought of asexual on his part, I took it somewhat personal. That for some reason I just didn't ignite that spark of passion within him. The baffling part was that his behavior before we became a couple suggested the total opposite.

Definitely doesn't work for me either. laugh bigsmile


I definitely would have taken it personally too! Except for the fact that he told me on our first date that he doesn't like sex and has never liked sex. He said he's only had sex twice in his life and decided it wasn't for him. He was a really nice guy so I hope he found someone who was a better match for him.
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ShyClassyLady

Tue 08/29/23 01:29 PM


Sometimes a guy just wants to have a beer and a really good sandwich and watch footie on the tele.


Nothing wrong with that. :thumbsup:
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Dbrood

Tue 08/29/23 01:57 PM

I do no is always used by me. I refuse I'll make em wait a year or longer. I'm more of a prude then most women sex is not what I look for in a relationship
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Toodygirl5

Tue 08/29/23 03:37 PM

I think a man would say no to sex, if he's not attracted to a woman.

Men are humans!

Edited by Toodygirl5 on Tue 08/29/23 03:38 PM
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SparklingCrystal 💖💎

Tue 08/29/23 04:26 PM

I think age is a big factor in this.
Up until men are 40-ish they're ready, able, and willing to sexercise anyone anytime anywhere as 'it' still works really well and sex drive is still high.
Once they hit 40-45 'its' functioning begins to decline for most. That's the time men say "I've finally mastered it!!"
They haven't, it just doesn't work the way it used to anymore and this decline tends to increase with the years.
It still functions, but the steel has gone out of it and it takes (much) longer to reach the finish line.

I guesstimate that's also when it becomes easier to say "I got a headache".
Maybe they just don't feel like the hassle of attempting to wake it up or to take a pill for that...

And I know some are lucky and don't have these issue but generally speaking...

Just Google "Kegels". You will mostly find exercises and tips for men, NOT women, in order to improve the function of 'it' or to not lose that.

Never met a men under 40 that wasn't interested in an opportunity to have sex. Being very attracted to the receiving party doesn't matter so much at that age, just the chance to get their rocks off.