totally agree as a widow myself and only had the one partner my whole life which was my husband it's really scary to try and date , and these men/ boys put you off for life because of the way they are, they talk to you nice for a bit then it all comes out and it's so tiresome and draining, it makes you think why bother would rather be single than put up with men like that .

I don't expect love or relationship straight away , I was in a 25 year marriage before he passed away , I just find alot of men just want a sex relationship and nothing else, just what I have found

No guy wants a relationship, but we say we do cuz it's the only way we get laid.

if we are honest, women won't sleep with us. a small minority of elite men can "afford" to be honest and still get putty. the rest of us will die virgins if we don't lie to you :)

I only had one partner from 14-46 and it will be 2 years on the 16th. I had an experience that made me backtrack. I don’t want it at the moment, but there’s a few I’m coming back for. I will continue to work on myself until the one worthy makes an appearance. I keep attracting narcissistic men, so I said what the heck - I’m kinky I’ll join a fet$ ish website and the men there are, so different. Body positive, gentleman, respectful and watch out for you. There’s widows groups, cooking groups and the amount of d|ck pictures can be overwhelming for someone that had to ask the last guy if he was un-cut. Lol

I can’t find what I need from either place. I call it my in-between. Lol

I have sexual bereavement and it’s hard someday’s. I don’t know how to navigate life yet, so where does a man fit in? Then there’s secondary losses that no one is supposed to talk about. You’re not alone on many issues.

You just need to find your tribe. My suggestion is stay in the forum and be careful. There’s widow outings in many different groups. I want to do it and a support group. With me I have no ability to know what a red flag is and I had to learn on my own what emotional blindness is and now I know it’s from ptsd I’ll work on that. I’ve had a crazy journey with erotic hypnosis, met a ton of professors … for some reason I attract them and I choose to play with one. He looks like Anderson Cooper. Lol He says all the right things and checks on me throughout the month just to say hi. If there wasn’t distance we both said we’d want each other.

Just have fun and you pick your own journey. Hugs - I know you need it. I sure do.

Perhaps the juice just isn't worth the squeeze so men aren't going there (marriage) anymore? Can't say I blame 'em.

why is it most men are just on here for women to pleasure them and that's all , it's sad really

why are women here? to find a sugar daddy or a good-looking muscled boytoy with a 10-inch dOnk.

Women are useful for lots of things. Whining isn't one of them.

thanks Hun , mine is 3 1/2 years ago after being together 25 years , it gets so lonely when you are so used to having your man around you, I dated one not long ago and I thought he was a keeper held my hand arm around me but then went silent that really hurt me and knocked me back .

I think it's hard also to trust men as I have had that many fake men it's unreal and the lies omg unbelievable, my trust is at an all time low but I won't give up .

I will find the person who cares, loves respects me someday just hope it's not too late as don't want to waste this pent up energy of you get me lol xxx

You did better than me. I dated 2 Scorpio men back to back. one in June - August and the other in Oct-Nov. The first one I drunk on every date on purpose, so I knew it was a fling. Lol He was tolerable drunk. Lol I was just that lonely. Attention turned to Controlling. Last date he showed up 5 hours early. My son’s like mom you have to put your foot down. Saying his girlfriend would cancel the date if he did that. He was a older spicy Italian man, but to nuts for me. To bad, because the laugher and chemistry we had together was so beautiful. I talked to him in November for his Birthday and immediately he was trying to control me and he said we’ll be together again. After him I’m like maybe it’s me. I dated an widower cop next. Such a gentleman for the first month, then he turned so mean and controlling… So no one since and I’ll just continue working on myself. I had a taste of a nurturing man that we had so much fun with all summer and then a nurturing gentleman without a sense of humour for a month.

I understand the pent up energy. For me I need a weekend of animalistic fireworks - for my widow fire to go away. Lol I thought about calling the first guy, but everything always says to move forward and don’t take life lessons back.

I hope you find what you are looking for.

Derp