I can't find a topic that would touch on such a sensitive area, especially when dating.

Personally, I suffer from a health condition that I believe would turn off potential partners.

So, I'm starting this topic in the hopes of at least obtaining some advice for me and others that may be in the same situation.

Thank you

Sports Health and Fitness Forum

maybe somewhere where you can Post your concerns.

You wrote sport,health and fitness forum OK I will hold on to health

I Load up on ESCARGOT Before Every Date.

Your question is too vague.

It depends on the condition, exactly what impact it'll have on the other person.
All the questions of how serious, how often (if not constant), does it impact finances (unable to work), is it physically trying for the other person (in case of decreased mobility), does it affect longevity?
Does it limit what you can share together, and so on and so forth.

Personally if a man has quite serious issues that would limit me or my life I'd not be up for it.
Having a man in my life would be an utter relief as he can take the heavier things in life on his shoulders.
May sound odd, but women generally are physically not as strong as a bloke.

And I have to be honest and say that growing up with an elder sister with an illness has affected me so much that I'm not able to be open to someone with serious lasting ailments of disease anymore.
Looking back, it basically ruined my childhood, changed me, probably caused my parents' divorce as well.

So it all depends on the context of the disease/disability AND the story the other person has.

Hi SparklingCrystal
Thank you for your tender yet specific questioning.

Being vague in my case is a defence mechanism, it allows me to potentially date laddies and see if we initially match.

I suppose my question should have been;
When is a good time to disclose illnesses that effect the mood?

Can people that have ups and downs that are medicated lead a truly happy life?

There it is
Laid down bare for strangers to see and hopefully share with me their honest and respectful views.
Thanks

Hello John,
Love is first a choice before it becomes a feeling.
If you find the one you're with mature enough, then you can let them see your vulnerability.

An open and honest discuss will give you clarity and perspective to know if they're with you or not.

And yes, people health challenges can enjoy Happy Ever After with the right partner who has shown genuine care over time.

single ladies

Nothing can limit someone from love as long as its legit.

John, I also have a 'disability' that I do not just put out there in the beginning but mine is more physical. Personally, if it is something that you are concerned that the other person needs to know then it should be up to you when to tell them while you are just talking online here. I will drop hints in the conversation while talking so at least it is not out of the blue when I do tell them. But it should be said sometime before actually meeting up in person.

Hi John!
In a way I feel the first part of what I wrote in my previous reply still goes:

What impact will it have on the other person?
How often does it occur, how bad does it get? Are there also stable times? Does it impact finances (unable to work), Is it very trying for the other person?
Does it limit what you can share together? Does it mean you regularly have to spend time apart? and so on and so forth.

When to tell is always difficult. Right of the bat is not giving yourself a chance, but waiting too long so the other person could be emotionally invested, isn't fair.

So I'd say after at least some conversation, maybe phone calls, but before you meet.
OR...
on the first meet.