2 years ago I had a date with a man from a dating site.
That didn't work out at all, we both felt that way.
I kinda expected it upfront and we just didn't really click.

Nevertheless we occasionally stayed in touch. Not necessarily as friends but because he was interested in a couple of my paintings, over time bought two of them.
And I did a reading for him, paid for as well.

In any case, he wanted to visit me somewhere in August, just a friendly visit. He wanted to give food from an air-fryer a shot before buying one and I have one.
And he just liked to come & see me.
I consented.
But for me there's nothing more, I have no feelings for him.

Some time went by and then he said to visit again and go out to dinner.
So to me that's like "you made dinner last time, now I will return the favour."

Dinner was lovely, great food, conversation etc. also okay.
But he still isn't a good match concerning love for me.
Before we went to the restaurant he was fishing, said something in the vein that it was enough to like each other, that possibly more could come from that. Or that just liking each other was enough.
Well, not for me! And I made that clear as well.

I didn't give any sign that I was interested in more, or in sex.
Yet back at my place for a cup of coffee to end the day he suddenly asked if I wanted him to spend the night.
WTF???
NO!
It actually came out of the blue, took me by surprise.

Of course he didn't spend the night. He doesn't turn me on so even if I had wanted sex, it wouldn't have worked.

I've never believed in men & women being friends and I feel this proves my case.
There's always one who wants more. Unless one or both are gay.

I still don't know what made him think of asking that question.

Yes a man and a woman can have a platonic relationship.

But this guy obviously had something else in mind and just didn't want to give up trying.

Was thinking of buying an air fryer???

Phhhhfffft!!!!!!

That's a good line.

May try it out myself sometime.

It has been my experience that one always
wants more than the other one does.

I think human nature has its own agenda.

No attraction seems to lead to friendship.
Because often it is the only remaining choice.

One caveat..sometimes just hanging in through
the friendship can turn the situation
around..even though first impressions
are negative.

Most know..right away ;-)

Did he get an air-fryer?

Yes, I feel that men and women can be just friends. But it sounds like he was playing a long game, friends first type of thing to win you over. If a man and woman are just friends, then both of them can not be attracted to the other at all.

I guess now the question is what are you going to do about this new "friend" who wanted more?

... Took him forever and he kept walking around in his boxers??

That's very true Soufie.... but it must work.
I think SOME (not a lot) women go for that. That's why I think these morons that think sending women a dikk pic work, still do it. They must have had a bite or two doing that, which keeps them to using that tactic

No idea. I never asked, haha.

This made me laugh ;-)
Men who do not know women very well always think
flashing the bod is going to help because
it helps them when it is a woman flashing
her assets;-)

Would an air-fryer make him more desirable? I've got an air-fryer, a microwave and a george forman grill.

Hmm, a Hedgehog and a Terminator. Fill your boots, ladies, but don't forget to ask about their kitchen appliances. Oh, the Hedgehog (Sonikhan) has gone... probably to get an air-fryer.

Over the years I have had a few women who were just friends. In those cases we both realized that our personalities were not a match. But, we have other common interest.

I'm pretty good at knowing who is interested and wanting to be in my friend zone. I terminate those pretty quickly.

I also have had women I don't know Email me or contact me. Those are the worst because they refuse to accept "no", and usually become stalkers.