hi, so i have never had a relationship ever. i want to know what is off putting about me? lol anyone answer? to be fair i dont actually go out and i keep to myself, im probably autistic or something i dunno.

also look at that huge vein on my head, thats totally because ive been single my entire life. it really shows! lol (they removed my head vein photo but the one with the htler looking tash is ok? lol)

I hear ya bro..I'm not sure there's any "real" women on this site..all I've seen is scammers..which is probably little men in Bangkok posing as Western women..

This 4th dating site I joined these sites scam you “ you have 10 likes “ to make you pay to see who liked you and get hopes up and only to find all 10 women Fake

As you seem sincere, maybe it is you..entirely.
You project who you are by your words, actions
and reactions.

You also project that you expect failure.
Then you give them reasons, handy.

I have a fat friend who every time you come into
her presence will tell a fat joke. I assume to get
there before anyone else can, as armor.

I am very different from you.
The assumption I make is always, that they will
like me. I went to 4 high schools, it was always
the same. Always had a smile, a nod, a sympathy
look for strangers.

Do you? Or are you so poor, focused on the
expectation of rejection that you cannot
afford pleasantries?

That is all it takes, really..you can train your
resting face to be more pleasant. I had to,
because people would always ask if I was
mad at them ;-)

It is a simple start, always have a list in your
mind of all the things you do well, even if is
only listening, a forgotten grace but surefire.

Give yourself credit for the positive stuff you
are capable of, might make you smile ;-)

You seem to say it yourself. You don't get out. You keep to yourself. Seems pretty clear that you need to get out more and be more open. Join a club. Get a hobby that gets you seen, like at conventions and meet-ups. You say you're fit, so get out to parks and get involved in your community. You'll probably be better for it even before meeting your date.

That, and what soufiehere said above.

i probably do kinda expect rejection by default tbh
even in things where your required to be picked i always expect to be picked last i guess because thats all i have known. then you tell yourself your not good enough anyway and end up cutting yourself off from others. only responding if spoken to, feeling out of place everywhere.

I think you have a very positive profile and have a lot going for you and there is nothing unattractive about you. I don`t understand but your not alone in the situation your in. A lot of things in life make no sense and are not fair it seems

I think it's because, as you've said, you don't go out. On line dating is not a great way to meet people. If you want to meet someone, you have to go outside and talk to people.

No One is Better than You or I or Any Person.
Even the Pope or Even the President.

We are All Human Beings.
We are All Fighting the Evil and Negativity in This World.

Next Time Someone Belittles You >
Simply Turn Around > and MOON Them !!!

All the advice given by others here is good, you do need to Mingle more on the outside, hobby clubs, sports clubs, further education, wherever your interests are, places where you meet people in a social setting.
In my opinion you need to look at your personal appearance, not that there is anything wrong with how you look now, here is what I mean I found this on the internet:

"Personal appearance is an individual's overall presentation, including their dress, grooming, and nonverbal communication, which significantly influences first impressions and is important for professional and personal identity. It encompasses both external elements like clothing and hairstyle, and internal aspects such as posture and demeanor, and can affect perceptions in both social and professional settings. "

I would suggest you change your hairstyle to something shorter, shave off your beard and moustache, more women prefer clean cut and shaven men. Remember, your goal here is to attract more women, so in my opinion you need to change your appearance, because the way you are now just isn't working for you. Looking more like the average and usual guy in the street is definitely worth a try. Good luck in your search.