I’m married. Long time.
I show up. I provide. I listen. I’m loyal.
And somewhere along the way, sex didn’t end—it just stopped being wanted.
Not angry sex. Not make-up sex. Not even lazy Sunday sex.
Just polite affection and shared calendars.
Women—be honest with me:
when a marriage turns sexless, what actually shuts the door for you?

Could be you're doing it wrong.

might I suggest having that conversation with her? maybe ask your wife what's changed? if you show up and actually listen, as you say you do, did you perhaps miss a cue or something subtle?

there can be any number of reasons why a woman abstains from sex.. perhaps she's going thru a life/body change that makes her feel un-sexy or un-desirable..
perhaps you being on a dating site looking for an intimate encounter might make her feel un-wanted..

just saying.. best to have that conversation with her, if, that is, you intend to work things out and save your marriage..

wow.. thanks for speaking on behalf of MOST of the women on this site..

if that's the way you truly feel.. why are you still here then? just askin

perhaps most women simply prefer keeping the "sex" talk/jokes etc IN the bedroom ..

...when we're in the bedroom we're completely at their mercy. Can't we at least discuss the terms of our surrender?

Number one reason women lose interest: the man not being a healthy masculine energy man and thus not doing and being what she needs to be fulfilled.
Almost all men these days are so called Beta men.
You may provide and listen, but do you carry the masculine energy (in a healthy way)? Do you hold the masculine frame so she can shift into her feminine and actually -finally- feel good?
A woman who cannot be in her feminine energy because she has to pick up the slack from the man isn't happy and will not want sex or not really enjoy it.

For a woman to be passionate she needs to be able to trust a man, trust comes from knowing, sensing, feeling, noticing that he holds the masculine frame. Again in a healthy way.
Once she feels, senses, knows she can trust him, that he can hold her, allows her to shift into her feminine, she can surrender to her man and enjoy sex.
If a woman cannot surrender she cannot enjoy sex and often can't orgasm either.
It takes a lot for a woman to allow a man into her most intimate. She needs to feel safe. If not, she cannot surrender and without surrender there's no pleasure, no orgasm or weak ones.

Another reason... he treats the kids or one of them poorly.

Both will very very quickly make a woman lose respect for a man and a woman cannot love a man she doesn't respect, let alone have sex with him.
He will feel like a burden, another child she has to carry. She doesn't want to have sex with that.

Tell it as is, always the best policy

we can.. but you all will still do as you are told... or we will suddenly discover we've got a headache!

You have to keep up with the 'Honey Do' list in my opinion or it's the cold shoulder.

Really is he serious

I'd say he's just looking for sex chat.

From a woman’s perspective, it’s rarely about sex itself. The door usually starts closing when emotional safety fades..when feeling seen, desired, or understood becomes inconsistent. Resentment, unspoken hurt, exhaustion, or feeling more like a role than a partner can quietly pile up. By the time sex disappears, it’s often a symptom, not the cause.