My point is you are only responsible for your actions. Not the actions of others and what others do to you. Your only control is how you react to it.
If you think of yourself as a victim, then you have probably made some decision that lead to that predicament or situation.
While you are not to be blamed for what happened to you by the hands of another, in some way unknown to you, you have attracted that experience. The thing to do is to learn from it, and hopefully discover how to avoid it in the future.
That is why I say that things don't always seem fair, but things are always the result of something else and the law of attraction is an exacting law.
If you are to take full responsibility for your predicament that would have to include being a victim. While you are not responsible for other people's actions, you are responsible for attracting them into your reality or being drawn to that wrong place and time them for that event to take place in your reality.
Not everyone agrees that they should take full responsibility for their reality and experiences and not everyone understands this option. It is a choice to do so.
That does not mean that if you are raped or traumatized that you should go around feeling guilty and blame yourself for being the victim. It only means that you have experienced something that hopefully is a learning experience. You can let it ruin the rest of your life or you can become stronger and wiser after having experienced it.
It is not the things we experience in our life that makes us who we are, it is how we respond to them that does.
In understanding the law of attraction, I have decided to take responsibility for everything in my experiential reality.
If I decide to go skydiving and someone pack my parachute wrong and I fall to my death, I am not going to blame the guy who packed my parachute. I am going to come to the conclusion that was probably my appointed time to die, or that I brought it into my experience by deciding to go sky diving.
Your higher mind knows more than you do and it would know if you were about to die and it would warn you ... if it were not your appointed time to die.
My higher mind warned me twice in my life so I believe this from personal experience. If it had been my time to die in a car accident or be killed by the person hiding in the back seat of my car I would not have been warned. Twice my life was saved by my higher mind that knew more than me.
That is why I have faith in the natural order of the law of attraction and why I take full responsibility for my experiences and my personal reality.
I may not know what the cause of an event is, but I know that there is a cause and that these things are guided by a combination of a multitude of conscious beings making individual choices about what they are doing and where they are going and what they are thinking.
jb