Question: "What does the Bible say about sex before marriage / premarital sex?"

Answer: There is no Hebrew or Greek word used in the Bible that precisely refers to sex before marriage. The Bible undeniably condemns adultery and sexual immorality, but is sex before marriage considered sexually immoral? According to 1 Corinthians 7:2, “yes” is the clear answer: “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.” In this verse, Paul states that marriage is the “cure” for sexual immorality. First Corinthians 7:2 is essentially saying that, because people cannot control themselves and so many are having immoral sex outside of marriage, people should get married. Then they can fulfill their passions in a moral way.

Since 1 Corinthians 7:2 clearly includes sex before marriage in the definition of sexual immorality, all of the Bible verses that condemn sexual immorality as being sinful also condemn sex before marriage as sinful. Sex before marriage is included in the biblical definition of sexual immorality. There are numerous Scriptures that declare sex before marriage to be a sin (Acts 15:20; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13, 18; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). The Bible promotes complete abstinence before marriage. Sex between a husband and his wife is the only form of sexual relations of which God approves (Hebrews 13:4).

Far too often we focus on the “recreation” aspect of sex without recognizing that there is another aspect—procreation. Sex within marriage is pleasurable, and God designed it that way. God wants men and women to enjoy sexual activity within the confines of marriage. Song of Solomon and several other Bible passages (such as Proverbs 5:19) clearly describe the pleasure of sex. However, the couple must understand that God’s intent for sex includes producing children. Thus, for a couple to engage in sex before marriage is doubly wrong—they are enjoying pleasures not intended for them, and they are taking a chance of creating a human life outside of the family structure God intended for every child.

While practicality does not determine right from wrong, if the Bible's message on sex before marriage were obeyed, there would be far fewer sexually transmitted diseases, far fewer abortions, far fewer unwed mothers and unwanted pregnancies, and far fewer children growing up without both parents in their lives. Abstinence is God’s only policy when it comes to sex before marriage. Abstinence saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and, most importantly, honors God

Another question: If God ment sex to be enjoyed in marriage and to procreate. Should sex be avoided by those unable to father or give birth to a baby or too old to become pregnet.

Well I suppose then that people should be having less children? Because that divorce rate is pretty high, MAYBE they should stay together in an unhealthy relationship, and have kids..

yeah, kids will make it better...


weeee! idealisim.

Perfect relaionships, and marriages arent out there. How about children who are motherless, and fatherless? Both parents are soooo supposed to be there, well, if theyre not, we shouldnt remarry, and be with someone else?

So its important to have both parents, but then a sin when the one parent leaves, or you must divorce them, because theyre abusive of the relationship, or you, so you should still remain single?

Marriage doesnt guarantee spiritual joining in the name of the holy spirit.

Im having sex, and I do not ever want marriage. Marriage guarantees nothing, been there, its not magic. The day after the ceremony, and money spent, are two of the same people, nothing changes, except now, you are both legally tied.

Get married if you like, I have nothing against it.

Not for me.

Yes I think both of those types of people should parent.

And, if God gives us children as a blessing, then how could it be a sin to be pregnant maried or unmarried? I dont believe God allows a woman to be pregnant if he didnt want it to happen.

I think the whole point is to make a commitment to God and your spouse and keep your commitment even if it hurts. When people believe that divorce is not an option, they will work harder to keep their marriage healthy so they don’t have to live so miserably. The problem is, it takes two and each has a free will. In our society today, we think the answer is to move on in hopes of something better instead of doing the hard work it takes to succeed.

Psalm 15:4 (New Living Translation)
4b - and honor the faithful followers of the LORD,
and keep their promises even when it hurts.

NKJV - 4b He who swears to his own hurt and does not change;

NIV – 4b who keeps his oath even when it hurts,

CEV – 4b And they keep their promises, no matter what the cost.

I did not become ‘born again’ until I was 27. I identified with the church and believed in God, I prayed regularly and would receive answers; I called myself a Christian, yet had never read the Bible or given my life to Jesus. When I read Acts 10 & 11, I realized that I was a lot like Cornelius. Thank God for my friend who loved me enough and was patient enough to share the Truth and get me out of religion and into relationship!

I began making friends in Christian circles and I was surprised how similar our marital problems were. Some had been raised in loving Christian homes and my ex and I were x drinkers/daily pot smokers that came from very broken, messed up homes, yet, we still faced quite a few of the same problems.

I realized that there are no perfect marriages. Some have it easier due to their upbringing and the examples that they were shown, yet, they will face trials, temptations, and denial of self that comes with any lasting relationship (be it marriage, children, or friendship).

Successful relationships take a lot of work and sacrifice. It doesn’t seem that way at first, but once the newness wears off (and eventually it will), both parties have to be willing to overlook the others weaknesses and work to build each other up or ‘edify’. It takes a commitment to do what is necessary to make it work and a forgiving heart.

It is when one moves past the infatuation love and moves on to the agape love, (which is a supernatural love that is selfless and prefers another above oneself), that lasting relationships or true love takes root.

The Bible likens the husband and wife to Christ and his bride (the church). In order to have a close, intimate relationship with God, one must do certain things such as reading the word to renew our minds to know Gods will, pray, fellowship with other believers, attend church and serve regularly, worship, praise, etc. to build a true relationship.

Jesus was our ultimate example in that he loved not his life unto death and laid down his life for his friends. While we were still sinners, he loved us and for the joy set before Him endured the cross knowing that he was giving His life as an atoning sacrifice for all that would accept Him.

He showed us the example on how to love and serve one another and said that He came not to be served but to serve. Now that is a crucifying of the flesh and Jesus tells us to take up our cross and follow Him. When we enter into a marriage covenant, we have to crucify our flesh from having our own way all the time.

We should aspire to learn about the other person and want to bring happiness into their life. We should be willing to lay down our own wants and desires for them. Otherwise, one or both may become selfish, mostly caring about what is best for them.

We need to study the word to find out what a Biblical marriage looks like and be yielded and willing to let the Lord correct us as needed.

There is even more crucifying when you add children into the mix...

You are right earthytaurus76, there are no perfect relationships. I think it is when we expect the other person to be ‘perfect’, that relationships are set up to fail. What is perfection? That is subjective and no person will ever be able to meet all of our wants, needs, or desires.

That is why it is so important to nurture our most important relationship, our relationship with God, so that we are not needy or expecting a person to be someone that they are not. I’m not perfect! No one is, but I don’t think that should keep us from marriage.


Questions…

Was our society more loving and family oriented when couples stayed together for the sake of their family, children, and friends or in our society now where people don’t commit? Was it perfect then? No! Is it better now?

Are people happier now than say around 50 years ago? Are communities stronger? Do neighbors watch out for each others families? Help one another? Do we even know all the families on our block? Do we care?

Who doesn’t long in their heart for a committed, loyal, monogamous relationship with the ending being you and your spouse best friends, seeing your children’s children, knowing each other so intimately that you know each others thoughts with only a glance, still holding hands after the fiftieth wedding anniversary, and experiencing and exploring all life on earth has to offer before finally going home?


Eph 5:21-33

[21Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.

24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,

27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church—

30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."

32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

I have answer for your question first ask yourself would jesus our lord and savior want you to have sex with a woman if you werent married no he wouldnt so why questiom what the bible tells you about and FYI SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE IS CLASSIFIED AS FORNICATION

Hi,

With in the 10 commandments it states 'Thou shalt not commit adultery'. In the modern sense of the word adultery refers to having an affair. In the biblical sense of the word this relates to all sexual impurity.

God created man and woman so that they may be together but only within the confines of marriage.

God created these rules not to hinder us but to protect us. If we save ourselves for the person we marry we then avoid all the problems that come with having sex before marriage whether that be a child or STI's amongst other things.

God gave us free will and knows that we will always fall short in our desire to be like Jesus. This is the reason Jesus had to die on the cross to save us from our sin as God knows that even on our most righteous of days we are like dirty rags.

In 2 Timothy 2:22 it says "Run away from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.

It is impure to have have sex before marriage but it is also impure to even think of someone in a lustful way. So we will always fall short, by how much and what you do about it is your choice. Seek to avoid the situations and pray that the Lord will strengthen you to not have those thoughts.

In 1 Corinthians v1 and 2 it says "Yes it is good to live a celibate life. But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman should have her own husband."

Sex is for the confines of marriage and is a perfectly beautiful and Godly thing when done according to his word.

Hope that helps,

God bless

Then Fornication and adultry is the same thing?

Is that what u are saying?

Also was Adam and Eve Married?

God gave Eve to Adam just like a father gives a daughter to her husband. Eve was created by God for Adam. She was his perfect other half. So yeah I would think they were married, does the bible say anything about that specifically? Would it have to?

God has made a man for every woman and a woman for every man that we are to marry cause after all he knows best. And we get married before God.. So if Eve was given to Adam then was god not marrying them himself?

That's the problem with marriage these days. Who allows god to pick there suitor anymore. What a blessing it would be to be with your other half. Of course to receive his blessings you would have to follow his laws. It's a step by step process. With no exceptions. The road to him is straight and narrow, which means to me no wiggle room.

I suppose I see this a little different. I think that sex before marriage is okay, so long as you're with someone you truly care about. I think the original law was more because of the lack of protection and more about sexual immorality in general. Much like many of the original things for cleanliness were due to them not knowing about germs and such. Sex before marriage back in the day could lead to a string of fatherless children and rampant STDs.

Also this from Matthew 7:2.
For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

And they don't lead to a string of fatherless children and rampant STD's today?