Here is the way I feel about it, as a Christian... now don't everyone jump down my throat and call me a heretic or whatnot. I'm an unmarried virgin. I'm young, only 24 years old and I don't plan on being a virgin when I'm in my 30s. Now we know what it is written about fornication in Corinthians "if a man and woman long for eachother, let them marry for it is better than to burn with passion"(but in Corinthians it also said that women must cover their heads in the church because they aren't the glory of God but of man), so there are some things that are left up to interpretation. I am not a "casual dater" nor do take part in what many people do my age and go from one bedroom to another. I would like to remain a virgin until marriage, but I am an imperfect human being. There are many christians with unrealistic expectations from their faith. They believe that they will be miraculously paired up with "the one", have a short courtship and have a long marriage with good sexual chemistry that lasts happily ever after. IT DOES WORK FOR SOME, but NOT all. I have to burst a few bubbles there, knowing friends who have had unhappy relationships for those reasons and well, being the product of a less than happy marriage. You cannot just start up a basically platonic relationship with someone, take the plunge and think that you're going to have great sexual chemistry. This is especially true if one or both partners is a virgin and has no idea what they're doing (like i said don't jump my throat on this one). A marriage needs to have consistent emotional/sexual chemistry or it will not survive. People that walk into a union with a prudent mindset aren't going to do so well.Just ask yourself this question; why would you go for the long haul with someone when you have no idea how well you do with them in a very important area? This is why infidelity occurs. While I have the ideal of remaining chaste until the day I marry the woman I fall in love with, I cannot make this as a total "set in stone" promise. I would be a liar if I did that. While I do not condone fornication, I still have to be realistic and say that something may happen with the right woman if we have been together long enough, even if marriage isn't in the foreseeable near future. Love happens, and no one can tell me that two people that decided to make a mistake and be intimate with one another before matrimony are somehow evil, or worse than two people who waited. And yes, sex is meant for much more than procreation. It was meant to be enjoyed. So for the time being, I am still a pure man and going through the journey of life until I find her or she finds me and I finally have someone to spend eternity with.
First good for u that u have waited this long, but being sexually compatable is not everything the one i was in the relationship with we were very compatable in that area but in the other things we were not and at first i thought we were. You are right u never know what u will do untill u are in that situation. It had been a very very long time for me and i never thought i would do that until i was married and now i know that if i had been in his will i wouldnt of but i wasnt and i did so now its time to move forward.
I do agree with Kat completely so many think when u get saved u can do whatever u want and its ok but i understand the Bible to say that no sin will enter in (Heaven). So I have been saved for 19yrs and my falling off the wagon, so to speak, if i had died with that sin in my heart i would of went to hell. But the Lord in His mercy and grace has been so good to me. The thing we should do is pray for eachother and not kick thoses who have fallen.
God bless
