I have had the same problem as many others before me. You meet someone who says they are Good hearted and Kind . Then they turn out to be a Phycho when you meet in person and they get a little alcohol in them.
Some times Alcohol is the Best Truth Serum.......lol. What are some signs or Questions to ask without ofending someone.....lmao?
If you want to know about a person pay attention to their history.
Do they have a family history. People will often rat on a relative even if they won't own up to their own problems. Parents or siblings that get loaded/hysterical are often a predictor of stress behavior coming your way.
Do they spend holidays with family? If the answer is no it is probably because have shown out often enough they are no longer welcome.
Do they have any life long friends? People who have a dramatic life usually have few if any long term relationships.
Are the friends they have party animals? Birds of a feather.
Are they a high school graduate? Drug, alcohol, and emotional problems are much more common in non-graduates.
Do they not have a job? Or a choppy job history? Do they work better with kids they can dominate or where there is little skill or supervision needed? Do they have a high stress job?
How long have they lived at their current address? If someone hops from residence to residence it is quite likely they are miserable to be around once the initial honeyingmoon period wears off. If they are in and out of parents or grandparents often it is probably because they have been "kicked out".
Do they know the liquor store people by name or they seem to know them chances are they are "regulars" even if they are currently sober.
Look at their car. Is it beat up? Are the shocks shot? Tires bare? Hubcaps missing. Someone who drives angry usually has self control issues. If their car has been vandalized it may be retalitory damage.
What about the interior of the house? Are their broken windows, picture frames, dishes, holes in doors? Is it a wreck or overly clean? Rage disorders, obsessive compulsive behavior, and depression are usually obvious in a person's living environment.
Do their children live with their ex or grandparents? Do those family members seem to be in charge? If they are it may be out of necessity rather choice.
How do they treat people in general? If they are sweety sweet with you but vicious to co-workers, neighbors, service personel you can bet they will get around to you.
Are parents or friends overly eager to match you up? Make their problem your problem?