Where was the intimacy, the real music, when the gal was climbing the guy's bones during the Honeymoon period? They were happy just sharing each other.

Also, why do some people have to be "in the mood" before they engage in sex? Doesn't the touching and caressing get the person in the mood?

My view is sex is frequently looked at as "the icing on the cake" when it really contains the basic nutrients necessary to hold a romantic relationship together. It shouldn't be any more an option than talking to ones partner. One wouldn't say, "Do we have to have a conversation over tonight's dinner. I'm not in the mood to talk to you."

Anyway, that's the way I see it. I don't have any statistics but I bet many relationships slowly dissolve as sex occurs fewer and fewer times.

Eehh, if she can make a really good sandwich and don't nag too much,
I'm good.

Nice.

it really is just that simple ive been on my own a long while and i really miss a good sammich, the nagging not so much!

In my experience, men over 50 are less willing to settle and expect a lot more for their money...Nothing wrong with that as long as they understand that door swings both ways...Also based on personal experience, I find that men over 50 consistently choose well preserved older women over younger women...

and some of us have excellent taste

Sorry ese, I would NEVER expect a lady to be seen & not heard. I look for an attitude & strong will, to match mine. Weak & submissive will never work with me.

Jeez, you mean in a little over a year I'm going to have to completely change the things I talk about?

Seriously, most of the men (and women) I associate with who are over fifty talk about the same kinds of things people in their forties and even thirties (well, mid-to-late thirties, maybe) talk about. Y'know, entertainment or hobbies, politics, science, philosophy or religion... life goals... etc. We might talk about our friends, and the people who have kids or grandkids sometimes talk about family.

Granted, our taste in music might differ on average from the tastes of a twentysomething, but we don't all sit around discussing our aches and pains and playing poker for Geritol. And if we talk about our "history", how is that any different from anybody else? People in their 20s, 30s and 40s talk about their life experiences too.

Though I will admit to being curious as to what (most) men in their fifties want in a relationship. Hell, I'd like to know what men in their forties want in a relationship, too, since I date on both sides of that fence.

As for not being interested in flexibility and challenges after age fifty, that's a ridiculous notion. Many of us near or over the half-century mark are in the process of changing careers, or taking up new hobbies, learning new skills, going places we haven't been before, etc. Some of us are going back to school, or moving vast distances from the places we once lived (and no, not for retirement in many cases).

Someone who's just turned fifty and is fairly healthy (which is most fifty-year-olds) can likely expect to live another thirty years if not longer, so the idea that we should all just become stagnant at this age really doesn't jibe with current reality. Perhaps in our parents' generation it worked that way, but not in ours.

They are Looking for Women under 30.

I think after being in a few relationships and having loved and lost and grown in maturity, gained lessons of life a man over 50 is looking mainly for maturity in a relationship. Some are after young women to boost their ego but that just means they are not done maturing.
A fully mature man is looking for a fully mature woman. One who understands the difference between a man and a woman and how they can compliment each other. Who understands the roles we play and wants to fulfill them.
A mature man knows a woman's needs in and out of bed, as the woman knows his. A man over 50 who is done playing games is looking for the woman just for him. That shares a similar world view and has similar goals so they are going in the same direction.
A man who is fully mature is on a journey, he has a limited amount of time to accomplish certain goals, he wants someone who will compliment him not hinder.
A mature woman has similar aspirations too and she needs a man to take on her aspirations and add them to his so they can work on them together. The protector and the nourisher. A woman wants to leave behind a loving family a man wants to leave behind a loving world.

I can't leave a loving family behind... but I want to make the world a better place.

Breathing and a heart beat.

I was just using traditional examples to make my point. There are no rules written in stone on how a good relationship works. A lot of us don't have a loving family to leave behind but we do have people in our lives who we mentor and who mentor us, that could be considered family.

this should be interesting....

well ese you gotta give us a reason!!!

and I would say that if they were climbing bones without intimacy that explains the future issues

just replace the word sex with intimacy throughout your post and you be at ground zero, ready to begin

awesome

will that pastrami?

nice post

and the one before it too

Thanks sweetestgirl11 you're the sweetest girl

Just because I'm over fifty, it doesn't mean that my interests are set in concrete. There's lots of new things I'd like to try. Mostly I'd like to find a lady for a companion. Now because of my age, I tend to be a bit biased, and I wonder how active an excessively overweight woman is. Aching joints, bad backs, does not give me grand expectations of an active social life. And yes, I'd still want to have a cuddle buddy.