It's like I just told a friend a minute ago...make em work for their pictures.

Well this is true but anyone who clicks on the link can see the picture. So it would only be people who read the thread, not people who are browsing mingle's pictures.

But why are people so afraid to show their pictures?

Not quite so...they do not have the link to click
on a 'Private' picture, unless given it as Cynderella
pointed out.

The link is exchanged in private email..not on a public thread.

I'm not afraid to show my pix. I figure some will like and some won't.

Okay I was thrown off by the words..."right here" which I took to mean in this thread. I glanced over the 'private message' part.

Sorry Jeannie. Yeah, I could have said that differently. Sorry dear.

I'm not at all scared to show my picture, since I'm not bound to run into my Mother or boss here. I had several up before I made them private. The reason I took them down is that I'm not inviting dating invitations right now, and am simply reversing your own methods. Non sexy pics invite fewer...while no pics at all invite an occasional stray.

Besides, I'd rather spend my time here talking with my friends and playing in the forums than opening all the "u are nice sixy bodie un so real pretty gurl," which I can assume are disingenuous at best when I've taken better pictures scrubbing the toilet in a moo moo.

Or maybe its cause of a genuine reason ie. Can't upload a pic as using Nokia Lumina and the browse button does not work proper also can't copy and paste the link to the photo as that don't work either trust me I want to put pic up , I've tried so many times arrrggghhhh

I will not even view a profile or respond to an email with no profile pic. I even have a disclaimer to that effect right on my profile. I am sure there are many awesome people I'm passing by, but to me it's just too much of a risk to take to be having an awesome conversation with someone and have to let them and yourself down when you discover you're not physically attracted to them. It's a horrible feeling on both sides. I get what you're saying about it being rude in a way. I am sure there are many instances of people not putting up a picture of themselves for privacy or technical reasons, but I suspect the majority are people who want to reel you in with their awesome personality so that you'll hopefully overlook what they perceive as their own physical shortcomings. I don't like surprises, and I don't like being manipulated.

The first thing that attracts you to the profile is the pic, I usually won't bother at all if they don't have one and it also gives you an idea the type of person they are based on background in the pic etc, also personally I am put off by pics of men with their top off!

Something to think about....just because someone has a picture on their profile, it doesn't mean it's them. People have been known to steal pictures from other places.

So you can't always trust a picture either. You could be talking to someone that looks nothing like their picture

This is so true. I've had it happen to me where the photos were not of the person I met - he was hiding his identity from his wife. Nice, eh? The ones that have no pic and no answers to the survey questions, and say "I'll tell you later" are usually to be avoided.

Anyway, photos are photos, and I look at them with a grain of salt. What you see is not always what you get! I actually find that non-people images often have more relevance to the person posting them, so are a clue to personality.

Im new here n have tried to ulload a pic but its not happening.plz help ta.

Im new here n have tried to ulload a pic but its not happening.plz help ta.

bs. i have no time to. i come here once in a while and i forget. this site is not on my priority list and i have opened an account. there is no reason to judge. ask and it shall be given. i fu gonna play christ then i am going play ur father..... judge not. ask rather.

Tell you what, if there's a woman in Austin Texas on this site that wants to post in this thread sometime between now and.... oh I don't know, the end of time, I'll go find a camera and take a pic of myself and post it here. Otherwise, I don't really care if you don't check out my profile.

I was on another site that I had just joined and hadn't uploaded a picture yet. Got chatting to this girl that didn't have a picture either and we aranged a date. I told her that I was going to put a photo up but she just said that it wasn't that important and that she didn't think that you can tell much from a picture anyway. When I met her she was actually pretty and seemed to think that I wasn't bad looking either.

In general though, no photo tends to make me a bit suspicious, as does not answering simple questions about marrital status etc. There may be some decent pictureless women on here in my area for all I know but I've never bothered to reset my search thing to include them. I am not a particularly visual person though and when I check out a profile it's the text that either catches my interest or it doesn't. That's going to give me an idea about her personality and what she's looking for etc and if they have taken the trouble to at least try to write something interesting that's an indication that they might be capable of holding up their end of a conversation.

hi everyone. first message. new to this and 1 finger speller so 4give mistakes. am in complicated personal situ...1 reason i do not put up pic. is cos i have an x who visits dating sites. abhor the idea of him looking at my dtails etc..rcently started to engage online and via phone calls with a man who professed to b a good sort. will not bore u with all the dtails he arranged a coffee date and never showed. no apology or follow up phone call. i suspect he eyeballed me and decided i wasn,t his cup of t. that,s o.k....but. follow up call is just a courtesy. r we not adults??? many reasons xist i blieve that may dter people from wanting to put pic.s up.

On the topic of people not using their actual pictures. I recall someone some time ago talking about being on a dating site and finding someone who had a picture of some good looking girl for their profile pic. They talked for a while and then at some point I think he sent this person some money to help with bills. It was actually a girl. But she turned out to be kind of nuts and traveled from Canada to the US and started stalking him. She left flowers on his door step, notes, and I recall she at one point did meet his face to face and she wasn't that attractive. I do not recall if he had to file a restraining order or not. But he learned his lesson from that experience.

Not to mention scammers who never or rarely use their own pictures. hahaha

I think video chat is best, because you also get to see their facial expression's and body language. There's only so much you can do being online.

pics can be faked to so having a pic on here does not mean the person is genuine nice idea though sadly that's all it is