The subject came up in another thread: it seems like men 45- 52 aren't interested in women their own age, 45-52?
I get a lot of interest from men but they're either younger or older than me. I hardly get any interest from men my own age and I'm beginning to wonder why. Are men 45-52 really going through this penopausal phase?

Women in their forties (usually) are at their sexual peak, feel good about themselves, their bodies, life and so on. Basically all the stuff that make younger men like them. But what about men of approx 45-52?
Men approx 38-43 still seem to be full of life, but then they suddenly they seem to disappear of the grid? What the heck happens to them?
Sure I could go for a man some 5-7 years older, but often men that age seem to have lost their zest, the lust for life. (Why???)
I know I'm generalizing here, it's no as black and white as I put it. But the tendency definitely IS true.

Anyone who can shed a light on this?

Are you sure its not a simple matter of biology and gravity?

I cant speak for men that age yet. One day, though, I dont doubt my testes will dangle out my ol man shorts and Ill need a little pump in my scrotum to get a rager.

But it is not this day.

This is only a guess, but there may be some validity to the idea.

Men of the age you speicify (45-52) seem to be scarce on such sites because at that age they are either still married or recently divorced. If they are divorced at that age, they probably have teenage (or younger) children. If so, they are likely doing their level best to help raise the children during the kids teenage years, AND they are likely paying some very heavy child support or alimony, all which prevents them from being free enough to pursue another love.

Who knows?

Good luck finding the answer.

penopausal phase ? What's this .

From what I've noticed, men do go through a "pause" of sorts and it happens at or around middle age (which I consider to be 40-45)...Like a pivotal point or a time to evaluate their life...They become moody and contemplative...Now evidence points to a corresponding hormonal change...A drop in their testosterone level...To compare it to menopause would be a stretch though...The hormone level drops at a much slower rate and men do not lose their ability to father children...Sperm production doesn't stop...You know what they say though, a man's identity is a direct connect to his ability to "get it up" ...When that ability starts showing signs of aging, some men get anxious....For some men, having sex with younger women is a way of denying or avoiding the fact that they are losing virility...

not sure I agree with this.. yes I have the young ones being crude but I also have a lot my own age I couple in their 50's but I don't seem to have an issue finding men my age or a year or two older.... now finding my match that is a whole different story

Very good point!
On the other hand side, a number of these things apply to many women too.

@ Brian, rest assured: what you're describing doesn't happen at that age just yet. The ignorance of youth, lol, thinking ppl 45-52 are "spent".

@ Mark, penopause is usually referred to as "andropause" in English.
Same as menopause but the male version of it: a collection of symptoms, including fatigue and a decrease in libido, experienced by some middle-aged men and attributed to a gradual decline in testosterone levels.

I've had girlfriends in their forties and it wasn't me that was the problem. They were going through "the change" and I couldn't deal with their mood swings. I just don't think that a woman that age is a good bet if you are looking for a serious relationship.

Yeah, but think you're talking men over 50-52?
There seem to be more available men approx 55 or up, I'm getting at a slightly younger group.

You make a good point Tawt....I was single when I went through menopause and the last thing on my mind was getting laid....In fact, I stopped dating for a couple of years because it was more trouble than it was worth...Once past the whole ordeal, sex drive, energy, and happiness levels soared....

Also, they make claims about how they are happy with their lives and that they are at their sexual peak etc but the next minute they are complaining that they aren't happy and that they are past their sell by date.

Yup, I'm generalising as well but my experience is as valid as yours.

Not at all.

Id still do Susan Sarandon!

....maybe not

You are generalizing, but speaking ONLY for myself, you are exactly right...When I was peri menopausal and menopausal, if someone looked at me wrong I would burst into tears...Sleep was interrupted, I was bleeding all the time, I was anemic, I felt miserable....Needless to say, I did not feel very sexy....When I finally got on hormone replacement, things became bearable again, but all in all, the whole ordeal sucked and I am glad I'm free of it....I have enjoyed more sexual freedom in my later years then I ever did when I was young and "under the gun" so to speak...Raising my daughter, earning a living, keeping a home all cut into having a meaningful and sexually fulfilling relationship..

as men in their first thirty years ..... that's why you should give men in the ages of 29-30 a chance .... they are the best choice for ladies in your age .

I get alot younger guy, but All men in thier 40's havent lost their groove, but msn Please keep in my most of us woman in our 40-45 are still young at heart, Chilvary Is Not dead, we go through changes just like the men do with their bodyie! Guys stop blaming the woman for All the mood swings, if it's Not you with mood swings and you still have your sexual drive at 40-50 Great! Men in 40-50's Please Don't go in your shell and hide from us in our 40-45! We al have to let go of our old baggage!

Well,i'm not yet 45.But beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.Younger or older women or men attraction depends on what one is looking for in a relationship.Body chemistry differs,and so is our likes and dislikes

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The question is why men approx 45-52 don't seem to be interested in women their age. And I doubt menopause is the reason. Like Leigh said, when she was going thru menopause, she wasn't interested in dating etc. so I assume women who have problems going thru menopause, wouldn't really be active in the dating scene.
So that sidetrack doesn't shed light on the question. Nor does it explain why younger and older men do show interest while men from the same age group don't or less.

So far I think GYs41 came up with a very good explanation. Question that remains is, now what?
Wait for those men's teenage kids to be adults? Go for a younger/older man?
Shame that the path of men and women rarely seem to have the same pace.

Leigh may not have been interested in dating etc when she was going through the change but plenty are and I'm telling you that a guy needs the patience of a saint to be able to put up with those mood swings.

Younger men are interested in middle aged women because they are looking for a mother figure, or they want someone with more sexual experience. Older men are interested because they can just about get away with dating a woman in her forties without being called a cradle snatcher.

I didn't say that sex is no good with a menapausal woman. That isn't the problem but I do believe that a woman in her forties is a bad bet if you are looking for a serious relationship. My ex is now fifty two and she's a completely different person; i.e, she's not a complete pain in the arse and she is now genuinely happy with her life. I put it to her recently that she had been a compulsive liar when we were together and when I told her why all that she could say was that what I was describing just sounded like a mixed up girl.