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Topic: why is it so hard for single moms to find a good man
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Scarecrow060972

Sat 03/26/16 07:35 AM

True...Sincere Relationship is really hard to find....Must dig deeper under the haystack I guess...frustrated

Be sure you're looking under the haystack, not the compost heap.
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Mystify35

Sat 03/26/16 09:52 AM

Wish there was a like function on here Scarecrow - well said, and +1 respect.
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FlorenceHult

Fri 04/22/16 01:14 AM


The way I Look At It Being a Single Mother Or Father We Are Still People Just Like Everyone Else We Just Have Little Blessings to Take Care Of And love
This is just well said.
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Twintidbits24

Fri 04/22/16 11:46 PM


True...Sincere Relationship is really hard to find....Must dig deeper under the haystack I guess...frustrated

Be sure you're looking under the haystack, not the compost heap.


I understand what you mean...I'll keep that in mind, though I am not very good at differentiating... If you know what I mean happy
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Twintidbits24

Fri 04/22/16 11:49 PM



Am a single mum of 1,,never married,must men date single mum becus of sex,and because they av experience. Bt they don't want to marry a single mum.

I beg to differ. The right man, a good man, will marry a single mother. If they fall in love with you, then it's not much of a stretch to love your children, which are a part of and an extension to you. It was one of the most rewarding things I did. But I also understand where you're coming from...I overheard one of my karaoke regulars, in speaking about the attractive bartender, that "well, she's got kids, at least she puts out". ( I had him escorted out, no-one disrespects my friends ) Sad to say that some do have that mindset. Just don't give up, there is a man out there that will love you and your children. We're just hard to come by.
My biggest issue is that most of the ladies I talk to find it hard to understand that I AM a single Dad, and my time isn't always my own, with school functions, Doctor's appointments, all the busy, fun stuff that comes with having children. It's hard to juggle a parental and a social life. I run a DJ and karaoke business, and it's hard for some of the women I meet doing that to realize that no, I don't want to go to another bar and continue to "party" once karaoke is over, I have to get home and relieve the babysitter :/

edited for spelling, not enough coffee yet


You're an admirable man any decent lady could fall for..... maybe the women you have encountered just want to have fun and does not want to take any responsibilities as well...I salute you for being an Ideal Father!!!:wink: flowerforyou
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Destinysyours

Sat 04/23/16 07:08 AM


The way I Look At It Being a Single Mother Or Father We Are Still People Just Like Everyone Else We Just Have Little Blessings to Take Care Of And love


A woman will say that no matter what, their kids come first. That dies make that man feel very good. Dating someone with small children are always a risky situation. Too much drama from the other parent usually.
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lonleyman288

Sat 04/23/16 07:10 AM

how u get dater pass
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Scarecrow060972

Sat 04/23/16 09:39 PM

You're an admirable man any decent lady could fall for..... maybe the women you have encountered just want to have fun and does not want to take any responsibilities as well...I salute you for being an Ideal Father!!!wink flowerforyou


Yes, well, not compromising my morals leaves me high and dry quite a bit :P but thank you

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ErotiDoug

Sat 04/23/16 11:10 PM

** why is it so hard for single moms to find a good man **
(Very late night thoughts)

1. Keep any relationship very-very Private at all times.
2. Read above, kids do not see or hear you get ready. Very Private.
3. Read above, you have a Private identity, like a super hero.
4. After your friend is a close friend, they will respect "private".
5. Your close friend is Never to meet your children.
6. After 6 months with your close friend, see Number 1 .
7. After 2 years with your close friend, see Number 1
8. After your children are 18+ , see Number 1 .
9. I think you know were this is going. Now You are catching on. As Parents: children's lives are Private. Are You a parent that thinks with you brain or will your children fail at life.

* Parent, it is up to YOU, to take charge of yourself...or others will.
**(on a happy note) You are now a Super Parent :banana: and a Hero :banana:
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SitkaRains

Sat 04/23/16 11:33 PM

Well... honestly when my kids were young. I stayed single for about 12 years. I didn't want to bring someone new into their world or mine.

When I dated, I dated discreetly and quietly.. My children weren't involved..

The huge "when and if" the relationship had progressed to the point it might turn serious..

The gentleman that I was dating was introduced to my children in a very casual sort of way.
For example I remember there was one guy I dated about 4 or 5 times I thought mmmm maybe.. So I invited him to a zoo outing.. I told my kids I had a friend that wanted to go to the zoo with also would it be okay if we met him there to spend the afternoon with us. This wasn't an uncommon Occurrence for me to invite a colleague to join us in this outing.

That worked out well and no harm no foul or uncomfortable questions for me or my kids or the date...

I honestly believe when we have kids we owe them. They don't ask to be born and we owe them to be there for them.

I see so many people bring their kids into their dating spectrum and somewhere kids think that all relationships are transitionary. Not a life lesson I wanted to teach mine.

I may be really outdated but it worked well for me and my children...
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Dodo_David

Mon 04/25/16 10:38 AM

Is the OP (a.k.a. salyersmom) even reading this thread anymore?
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Twintidbits24

Mon 04/25/16 11:12 AM


You're an admirable man any decent lady could fall for..... maybe the women you have encountered just want to have fun and does not want to take any responsibilities as well...I salute you for being an Ideal Father!!!wink flowerforyou


Yes, well, not compromising my morals leaves me high and dry quite a bit :P but thank you




You're Welcome....Enjoy Life At Its Best...There are lots of ways to obtain Happiness...Stay Cool :wink: flowerforyou
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Scarecrow060972

Thu 05/05/16 03:58 AM


Well... honestly when my kids were young. I stayed single for about 12 years. I didn't want to bring someone new into their world or mine.

When I dated, I dated discreetly and quietly.. My children weren't involved..

The huge "when and if" the relationship had progressed to the point it might turn serious..

The gentleman that I was dating was introduced to my children in a very casual sort of way.
For example I remember there was one guy I dated about 4 or 5 times I thought mmmm maybe.. So I invited him to a zoo outing.. I told my kids I had a friend that wanted to go to the zoo with also would it be okay if we met him there to spend the afternoon with us. This wasn't an uncommon Occurrence for me to invite a colleague to join us in this outing.

That worked out well and no harm no foul or uncomfortable questions for me or my kids or the date...

I honestly believe when we have kids we owe them. They don't ask to be born and we owe them to be there for them.

I see so many people bring their kids into their dating spectrum and somewhere kids think that all relationships are transitionary. Not a life lesson I wanted to teach mine.

I may be really outdated but it worked well for me and my children...



This. I'm not ashamed to admit I've passed up nights out to stay in with my youngest to build Lego's or watch a movie and eat things bad for us. He's a mildly Aspberger child, and the divorce and how his mother has treated him since has set him back, so I try my damndest to be the one solid thing he has in a very transitory world. Any lady I would dare to date would have to understand that I am a parent first and be patient until I would feel comfortable in introducing them to each other.