I think it makes no difference when you're dealing with someone who is genuinely in love. Most guy will do anything to get you to have sex as soon as possible. That is their agenda. Women want to know if they can trust a man before they sleep with them. Unfortunately, most men don't care about that. In the end we will sleep with the wrong guys and get hurt no matter what we say. Until someone decent comes along and doesn't tell us what we want to hear to get something else we will never know. That's why women are so hurt, because the right guy never comes along for so many women. Men don't love very often.

Ah, the man-bashing happens again.

I think it makes no difference when you're dealing with someone who is genuinely in love. Most guy will do anything to get you to have sex as soon as possible. That is their agenda. Women want to know if they can trust a man before they sleep with them. Unfortunately, most men don't care about that. In the end we will sleep with the wrong guys and get hurt no matter what we say. Until someone decent comes along and doesn't tell us what we want to hear to get something else we will never know. That's why women are so hurt, because the right guy never comes along for so many women. Men don't love very often.

Hi everyone and thank you for partaking in my post by sharing your thoughts!

Looking at the time and effort wasted in developing relationships' that never work at times, I then wondered:

Is it better to have matters discussed in early days so that parties involved can either accept one another OR part ways sooner before bonding and getting attached?

What if this sabotages the potential had they waited longer instead of having premature discussions in early day when they still trying to figure out if they relate at all OR can cater for one anothers' differences?

Can one really tell if/when the time is more favourable for discussions that would have shaken grounds and intimidated the relationship? What are possible signs?

Thank you once more for time taken in reading and writing back,
God bless!

I think it is important to have those talks in the beginning of course but sometimes people progress or go through changes as time goes on. I don't think it is a waste of time just a learning lesson to be applied to when I find my true soul mate. Best wishes to you.

I think it makes no difference when you're dealing with someone who is genuinely in love. Most guy will do anything to get you to have sex as soon as possible. That is their agenda. Women want to know if they can trust a man before they sleep with them. Unfortunately, most men don't care about that. In the end we will sleep with the wrong guys and get hurt no matter what we say. Until someone decent comes along and doesn't tell us what we want to hear to get something else we will never know. That's why women are so hurt, because the right guy never comes along for so many women. Men don't love very often.

You know, it's a funny thing.
At the end of a relationship, I cry and cry.
Not for the guy.
For all the emotional investment, the time,
the love and the hope.

That are gone.
Was it worth it?
Sure, one keeps doing it :-)

I think it is because you can bash hope to a pulp
but when you least expect it, there it is again
taunting you.
And over the edge you go..again.

Yes.
YES.
It is worth it.

And I agree with Soufie. Soufie, you just answered on my thread from before - is it that we more yearn for the guy or for all we invested in the relationship.

Hi everyone and thank you for partaking in my post by sharing your thoughts!

Looking at the time and effort wasted in developing relationships' that never work at times, I then wondered:

Is it better to have matters discussed in early days so that parties involved can either accept one another OR part ways sooner before bonding and getting attached?

What if this sabotages the potential had they waited longer instead of having premature discussions in early day when they still trying to figure out if they relate at all OR can cater for one anothers' differences?

Can one really tell if/when the time is more favourable for discussions that would have shaken grounds and intimidated the relationship? What are possible signs?

Thank you once more for time taken in reading and writing back,
God bless!