My 18)she will be 19 in July) daughter just told me she is pregnant. She told me over the phone luckily she wasn't here to see me punch a wall.
I don't know how to react at all. She had everything going for her, National Honor Society, scholarship to law school and now she said she doesn't want that she want's a certification in business management and Photography.
She is pretty guarded about the guy and wont tell me much, and honestly I want to rip him apart.
I made it sound lie I was happy for her on the phone but I am pretty upset, disappointed, livid and feel like it is my fault (there is a history there).
She's throwing her whole life away and there is nothing I can do.
I have never felt so helpless in my life.
My daughter texted me and said in her text...
"Dad I need to talk with you - I have some bad news"
At first I thought to myself, she is pregnant and not married.
The thing with society is that its okay to be pregnant if your'e married
And not okay if your'e not married.
So anyway, later that evening we spoke on the phone (not texting)
And my daughter said...
I lost the bracelet you bought me :(
I'm sorry.....
It was at that moment that I realised,
even if she was pregnant, it wouldn't have mattered.
Because I love her and she has a life to live of her own.
And that sometimes, that's how we learn...
Sure, your mom and pop will give you their BEST advice,
because they don't want you to make the same mistakes as they did....
but as children or as in this case, adolescents,
(caught halfway between being a child and an adult)
we think the world is our oyster and nothing is impossible
And that's just youth for you.
WE HAVE ALL BEEN THERE - EVEN US!!
There are many worse things than being pregnant,
like being in a car accident...
Be thankful your daughter has her health,
because health is wealth....
And everything else will into place sooner or later
And besides that, it's NEVER too late to finish studying,
Many mature students take their exams and qualify for degrees and masters and such like even later into life, so really its not the end of her career.
Never say never!
Good luck to you both and her partner too.