could the number of kids be the reason for not being able to find and keep a partner?
I think its also important to understand that when a man is courting a woman, the woman is the focus.
I had 4 kids, raised while married.
I KNOW our children are VERY important parts of us.
Most men KNOW your children are very important part of you.
When you are courting, do the kids take the focus?
Do you focus on the two of you as partners or do you insert your kids into the courting process?
Building a relationship with you is about the two of you.
If the kids are inserted into that bonding process too quickly or to completely it can affect the bond. He knows you have kids, but in order for him to commit to you he needs time with you first. He has to figure out if YOU are the one, then he will address the children's role. He's not dating you to get to your kids (I hope), he's dating you to get to know YOU better.
If you are constantly torn about your kids, complaining about them, having problems with them, he's probably gunna drop you.