His parents say " he is going thru something"
I agree, they are going thru something = Poor Parenting.
To me the kids are not an issue, they're kids.
If the parent I want to date is incapable or unwilling to raise their own kids with good parenting I'm not interested.
If she raises her kids with good parenting skill and the kids are not a problem I am looking for her to focus on the task at hand.
If her kids invade the dates and meets, I'm not interested.
This doesn't mean they actually physically invade the date.
What it means is when I am out with her and trying to build a relationship, have intimate (personal) conversation and she is constantly being interrupted (sidetracked) with phone calls concerning her kids, it puts a damper on the date's purpose.
I'm not talking about wellness checks done between conversation subjects, I'm talking about pestering calls during the date and her constantly worrying about her kids (clingy) instead of concentrating on the two of us.
The date is not a long duration thing (a few hours?), she isn't going to be gone for an extended period of time. If her focus is on her kids instead of us it signifies a lack of parenting skills because she doesn't trust the sitter (or her kids).
I have no problem meeting or interacting with a woman's kids, once we have a relationship started between her and I.
I raised my family married but when we had "date nite" or "adult day" we left the kids with a babysitter we vetted and trust.
I usually gave the babysitter an expected return time give or take a couple hours (depending on what we were doing and where).
Our babysitter didn't call us every hour, we told them to call if we are not home at the expected time, but that was more for their benefit than the kids.
When they would call we would ask about the kids, of course.
Our 'dates' were time for us to be together and my marriage did last for 25 years (well past my youngest turning 18).
If we are dating, its meant to be our time for us.
So if you push your kids in front of you, it interrupts the process needed to establish a meaningful relationship.
If your dates are experiencing this before they meet you and you do it, you won't get dates like you should.
Yes, you love your kids (I hope).
Yes, you want your date to love your kids too (I think).
Problem is, the kids are inserted at the wrong time or forced.
When I was dating I would tell my date I have 4 grown children and 13 grandchildren "when she asks".
I love them all but that is not the focus of the date.
I slowly introduce my date to my kids and grandkids.
My advice, pull the kids of the profile and out of the date.
Truthfully answer the bottom questions.
Only bring up the kids when your date asks or slowly introduce them into the relationship being built.
You profile is about you.
Get to the meeting phase and go from there.