Topic: Reading profile before messaging
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AngelHappiness

Wed 05/02/18 01:55 PM


I usually read the profile, unless its a giant wall of text.. Which tells me when face to face she is going to talk so much my ears will bleed, and she'll suck all the oxygen out of the room...

I'd have to shove my swizzle stick in her mouth just so I could get a word in edge-wise..


You made me smile because of that your ears will bleed word.. thought only nose will bleed :) haha.. my nose bleeds everytime I have a conversation with a guy/girl who is so fluent in English :grin:... not sure if my profile is long enough but I have lots of stories and questions when I like talking to the person :wink:... I hate small talk haha but most people like it.. they say they have never seen a girl who writes paragraph.. who says more than hi and hello plus the fact that I am genuinely sweet (sweet to all and nice to all) but I am picky in replying of course :blush::blush::blush:
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eric22t

Wed 05/02/18 01:58 PM

easy with the curse angellaugh
you don't come any where near a true wall of words lol
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Unknow

Wed 05/02/18 02:14 PM

Illiteracy?
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GalaxyStarz

Wed 05/02/18 02:17 PM

My reply to a 25 yr old who wanted to snapchat, skype, etc AFTER I told him he was much too young for me.


"I'm not your babe. whoa I'm not looking for that kind of fun. Please read my profile."
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Up2youandme

Wed 05/02/18 02:24 PM

Yeah that's the thing tho it's almost 99.99 percent bots so I don't even bother replying to those messages.
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GalaxyStarz

Wed 05/02/18 02:25 PM

Do bots write several times? Or reply right away?
Edited by GalaxyStarz on Wed 05/02/18 02:25 PM
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eric22t

Wed 05/02/18 02:26 PM

and hence the justification to set mail filters cuz they absolutely don't take the time to read anything
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ciretom

Wed 05/02/18 02:26 PM

Why don't people read profiles before messaging?

Why don't people find that this question has been asked and answered many times before on internet dating site forums?

I would imagine the answer to both questions are motivated by similar and/or related impulses.

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eric22t

Wed 05/02/18 02:27 PM

yes they can and usually their response totally ignores whatever you just typed
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JavaJunkieJr

Wed 05/02/18 02:27 PM


though he might need an industrial sized one to make an impressionlaugh


Truth!..laugh
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Up2youandme

Wed 05/02/18 02:29 PM

Sure why not .... it's automated ....especially if they message often ... but hey that's just my take on it. I'm sure you have your own checklist.
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Toodygirl5

Wed 05/02/18 02:35 PM

Yes, if the men would do that would be great!
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Up2youandme

Wed 05/02/18 02:37 PM


Do bots write several times? Or reply right away?


Well I can rule you out as a bot bigsmile
Edited by Up2youandme on Wed 05/02/18 03:21 PM
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joethebricky

Wed 05/02/18 03:10 PM


frustrated

Why don't people read profiles before messaging? whoa

You mean we’re supposed to read the profile?
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Toodygirl5

Wed 05/02/18 03:15 PM



Do bots write several times? Or reply right away?


Well you I can rule out as a bot bigsmile



Are you sure? slaphead
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msharmony

Wed 05/02/18 03:17 PM


Why don't people read profiles before messaging?

Why don't people find that this question has been asked and answered many times before on internet dating site forums?

I would imagine the answer to both questions are motivated by similar and/or related impulses.




how do you search where else a question has been asked on THIS site? Does it really take no longer than reading a profile?
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Tom4Uhere

Wed 05/02/18 03:18 PM

I usually read the profile, unless its a giant wall of text.. Which tells me when face to face she is going to talk so much my ears will bleed, and she'll suck all the oxygen out of the room...

I see it just the opposite.

That 'wall of text' you describe tells me, in most cases, that the woman knows herself and her qualities and know what she is looking for.
The more information she gives, the more we have to talk about when we are trying to figure out if we are a match.

A 'wall of text' that essentially says nothing is different from a well-thought profile description.
The more I learn about her the more commonalities we might share and the better our discussions will be on target to what is important to us both.
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msharmony

Wed 05/02/18 03:20 PM


frustrated

Why don't people read profiles before messaging? whoa


I have often wondered the same. If I see a photo I like THEN I read more about them in the profile. Seems like the thing to do to know if you like more than their looks.

It seems to me that the time it takes to say hello and WAIT for a response or several responses to figure out you arent compatible, is far longer than it would be to READ the profile of their basic beliefs and interests, that can tell you right off the bat if you should move on.

I have unfortunately seen alot of very nice photos, but read on to see the person behind the photo was not compatible. I cant imagine how much more time I could have wasted saying hello to all of them instead and going through enough waiting and responding to figure out that same thing.



but I guess that's a matter of perception.

Edited by msharmony on Wed 05/02/18 03:23 PM
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SpicyExcel

Wed 05/02/18 03:32 PM


frustrated

Why don't people read profiles before messaging? whoa


Personally I do read them first. Many of the profiles I veiw, do not say anything, or have anything filled out.
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lilwmn

Wed 05/02/18 03:49 PM



frustrated

Why don't people read profiles before messaging? whoa


Personally I do read them first. Many of the profiles I veiw, do not say anything, or have anything filled out.


I don't think I filled mine out except to say I'm only here for the forums. I think anyway, I might check that again. But I didn't fill anything out for two reasons, one I'm not looking to connect with anyone. Secondly, I have found in the past the majority of guys don't read it.

I don't read any email unless I recognise the person writing, too many scammers that I don't feel like wasting my time reading the emails.