Hey people in here :)
I have a question for you :)
What is so scary about filling out even the basics in the profile and doing it honestly?
I have stumbled upon several, if not most of profiles in here that i've seen that has nearly nothing in them, not even a short selfexplanatory text about ythemselves.
Is really "hi" meaning everything or what?
Those few who really have something in their profiles such as the answers to the basics and a short text can be counted on one hand and one in particular that caught my eye hasn't even been on here for over a month according to the profile itself.
so, is it so bad to write something about yourself or is the "hi" a shortcut because it's obviously difficult to write something that might catch someones interest?
This type of question assumes that everyone is here to live to your expectations.
Its a controlling mind that thinks this way.
If you flip the question someone might think that people that write a lot or fill out their profiles are doing it wrong.
Its much easier to understand everyone is different and how somone does or doesn't fill out their profile is only their own business.
You focus on the ones within your preferences and ignore the rest.
I only live behind my own eyes.
Its impossible for me to live behind someone else's.
For me, it will only take one match.
All others are merely not a match and that's okay.
Just because they don't match for me, doesn't mean they won't match for anyone.
Not disagreeing with you, and you have valid points...
But...with one pic and nothing written about their interests, hobbies, or what they are looking for..it's hard to even have any inkling of they'd be a "match"..
Got to have *something* to go on....otherwise...it's just a blind stab in the dark...having to ask a bunch of questions *just* to find out if the two of you have enough in common to even *start* a conversation...
I myself would rather know upfront what quirks and possible kinks they have that i could not deal with...rather than after a day & a half or more of chatting..
But, to each their own..
Everyone deserves love...even the most quirky among us...
Personally, I prefer multiple pics and a fully filled out profile.
I don't even bother to consider those that don't.
It cuts down on my possible matches but it increases the match potential of those that do provide a good profile.
It separates the grain and the chaff.
Of all the women on a dating site, most are NOT matches with me for some reason. I don't want a lot of matches. I want one really good one.
A blank profile lets me focus my efforts towards the remaining potential matches that fall within my personal preferences.
If you are looking for a needle in a haystack and remove all the strands of hay, eventually all that will be left is the needle, which will be very easy to find.
I think of it as
If you being you sets my heart on fire
AND
Me being me sets your heart on fire
Everyone else is just stuff in the way.