People who do not properly fill out their profile are evil and should be shunned.

I am new here and already had my share of scammers. Initially I left out my previous job, just to see what is going on here. I Had a few "interested" in my profile, but I ran them out as scammers. As soon as I mentioned a defect in their profile versus what they tell you, they loose interest! Why? .... Because most guys here either lie or just want a woman for a quick intimate encounter and that is that. My former job was a police officer. That (I don't know why) scare most men. (I included that in my profile now). Is it that bad? Does it make me a bad person? Is it wrong then to be honest in my profile? NO it isn't. There are some good people out there. I prefer a filled out profile, because I want to know a little about a person that caught my eye.

I am new here and already had my share of scammers. Initially I left out my previous job, just to see what is going on here. I Had a few "interested" in my profile, but I ran them out as scammers. As soon as I mentioned a defect in their profile versus what they tell you, they loose interest! Why? .... Because most guys here either lie or just want a woman for a quick intimate encounter and that is that. My former job was a police officer. That (I don't know why) scare most men. (I included that in my profile now). Is it that bad? Does it make me a bad person? Is it wrong then to be honest in my profile? NO it isn't. There are some good people out there. I prefer a filled out profile, because I want to know a little about a person that caught my eye.

Profile content:
1. Every woman loves to laugh. What else is new. Tell us something we don't know.
2. If you only want sex move on to the next profile. Why give dishonorable mention to this type of individual. Saying so gives the indicator that a woman has been emotionally burned and one will have to overcome near insurmountable emotional mountains.
3. I like to travel. Whose going to pay the bill?
4. Older women posting pictures of themself from twenty years ago. A 65 year old woman with a picture of a 40 year old is not being honest.
5. While the photo may be recent stop using Photoshop to correct ages imperfections. Like #4 this is dishonest and is a turn off when you actually meet.

While I don't view men's profiles I assume men are guilty of our own misinformation within profiles.

Hi Ami... it's good to fill out your profile and to be honest. Your former job will only scare the ones that don't matter. Also, keep in mind scammers don't read profiles, so fill it out to attract the ones you'd like to meet.

Hope that helps and welcome to Mingle... the forums are a great place to meet genuine people and we have lots of fun here, so stick around and have fun.

Hi Ami, welcome to the forums.
I read your profile and it is very good. Nice to know that you were a police officer. It might scare some but those people who are scared of police officers are up to no good anyway lol

Happy New Year!

Choice is a beautiful thing...

What's so scary about having a conversation with everyone that does it and asking them personally.

Why not?
You can have the most filled out and honest profile in the world.
Doesn't mean anything if no one says "hi" to you, or answer your "hi."

It's neither good nor bad.
It really just doesn't matter.

I can see the benefits of just saying "hi."
IMO it seems kind of like seeing someone in public and starting off with "pardon me," as opposed to immediately going into a routine trying to force their attention, or screaming at them "this is me! this is everything about me! validate it! commit it to memory! Now!"

Does anyone have that kind of time?


The more filled out it is, the better chances are you won't look like one of the many bot/scammer accounts. If you state something about revealing things due to privacy issues, most people, I would image, would consider that perfectly fine, but when there's nothing, there's no ability to tell if they're a real person or not.


It really kinda does. No one looks at a blank profile and go "Oh, this is interesting!" No one.



The problem is that with that 'hi' in the profile because it's the default, you end up looking like the many scammers out there, who do not bother to fill out a profile. The people who talk about safety and so on sites like this warn specifically against profiles with little to no information. They're the first sign of a potential predator, scammer, or worse.

Better to waste some time than to be looked completely over because you blend in with the scammers.

Something wrong?

I did profiles, posted photos, wrote messages. What did I get? Goose egg. I don't doubt others like me have done the same for no good end. It's a lot of work and wasted time. Then someone gripes about open profiles.

You aren't seeing it from our side. Bet I re-wrote my profile a dozen times. Never changed a thing. Hundreds of messages sent with no replies. Invariably, some doofus Will come along and tell us we aren't trying hard enough. My trying hard days were long ago. By the way, I never expected the "Hi" to work, and it never did. (Yes I tried it a couple times) Five years ago, I decided to work on my own situation, and the heck with this dating business.

Rattle off a few lines, post it as a profile, and proceed to forums. No forums? I'm not there. There's no reason to, from my point of view.

So, the next time you think about questioning why profiles are so short, study on the reasons why some just don't bother.

Yeah, deuhhh... you don't have a photo. And you wonder why people don't reply?

If a guy doesn't have a photo online, I never reply, won't even read his message. I got photos online as well, if someone can't be bothered to do that, I can't be bothered to go there.
There's enough scammers and fakes and creeps online. A photo is the least you can do.