don't be so judgement there all kinds of reasons people have affairs till you know the facts don't judge have seen it many times in my work where a partner that's dieing or very ill they give the other the choice to have an affair it one of the most loving thing someone can do there are many reasons people have affairs yes some are just scum bags I was the other women married but separate he was the best person I know loving, kind and of course French
Well, if it is due to their partner's health or some such..and their partner has truly given them "permission"..then here should be no problem with me speaking to her to verify this, right?
Just to make sure everything is on the level/ above board..
Otherwise, you are clearly hiding something, and THAT is dishonest.