...is it simply easier to "harass guys for really really serious relationships, instead"?

That doesn't make sense.

for me it depends on circumstance. I took a Greyhound bus to Albuquerque a long time ago. Sat next to a hunk of a biker-type guy, nice casual dress, lots of great tattoos. We talked and ate together at same table when we stopped for lunch. He was on way to San Francisco, coming out of Omaha, and yes, he had a Harley. He said his MOTHER had no idea he ran with Hells Angels and did not want her to ever know. He went home twice a year and always took the bus. Always at home wore shirts that covered the tats. Wish the trip had been longer, he was a really great guy.

Have had to get off an elevator a few times with creeps trying to hover over me.

should i insist on safe sex? know where i can get extra thick condoms that may have ridges on them?

From what I have observed, women generally don't have fear.
Instead, they have the wisdom to avoid a man who claims to be a victim of women when he really isn't.

I can't go for a walk in the woods anymore because of who i meet.

I would certainly hope so! One would hope you have enough self esteem to take percautions with who you choose to have random sex with, your posts reek of desperation, desperation will make you be a fool and careless. So go ahead and be all flippant about thick condoms .

i am only desperate for sex, not really really serious relationships.