Not all women are like that and if you feel that way about “women” why are you on a dating site ?

Finally, someone has spoke the truth about how it really is, thank you. That makes so much better sense. I am in a similar situation. Thank you Txsgal 3333.

Himanshu Bhatt

Seems like a bit of a "meet shop". ;)

Single Moms love single Dads but may be too busy and focused to date.

Rather than classifying all women into your own jaded view perhaps you should just be yourself.

Examine your expectations of the woman you want in both of your lives.
Go do public things with your son.
Embrace him as your child, show love and affection towards him and stop using him as a reason you can't find the woman you think you want.

My kids are all grown adults now.
At my age, those I am looking for will also have kids grown and adult.
We probably have grandchildren.

Try to realize if a woman wants to be with you, she will accept your son.
If you are finding women that can't accept your son, they are not the woman for you.
Same applies the other way.

When looking for someone special in life we tend to get confused with the reality of how things are and the fantasy we wish things were.
You are not single, you are a father with a son you love.
Embrace it.

The woman right for you will understand the reservations and restrictions you impose while caring for your son.
If they don't, they are not the right one for you.

I do think some women will surprise you tho.
Women tend to be more readily accepting of children than men do.
Perhaps, your standards for looking need to be adjusted.
Just sayin....

Hey, im sorry to hear this. I would date a man with a kid but i also have kids so maybe try not to group all women together cause there are a few out there that would love to meet ur son.

If I dated I don't think it would be a problem. Most mine are grown but one. I had her later in life my Christmas miracle . I understand how alot don't want smaller children. I see it as their loss not mine. The right one will come along and have no problem with it.

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I have a stepmother and I have been one myself. Have experienced both sides of the coin.
A stepchild is never ever ever ever ever ever the same as your own. Not ever. You may come to like them, get a good relationship with them, but you miss the history, the bloodtie.

I noticed it in my stepmom -with whom I had and still have a very good relationship- when she got her first grandchild, by her own daughter. I sensed right away something had shifted. It actually hurt.
Now that my dad has passed 3 years ago, I notice more and more that there is a rift. There is no real connection. Sure, we've known each other for almost 40 yrs, but that is never ever the same as a blood connection.

Having had 2 stepchildren myself... NEVER again! Hell on earth. Difficult to relate to, even the things they like to eat are different. Meaning every day at the dinner table they're unhappy, and you're unhappy as you cannot cook what you're used to cooking, and they still don't like it.
And that's just food... The whole thing affected my relationship with my own kids too, not for the better.

I was open to it then as I know the ins and outs from my own life. But it's almost impossible to make it work.
Most 2nd+ relationships with children involved end because of stepchildren.
I won't ever go there again.
So if a bloke has younger kids, NEXT!!

One of my sons has a stepdaughter.
My daughter has a step daughter.

My son and his step daughter works fine.
My daughter and her step daughter is a nightmare.

I think its a woman thing?

In all fairness, none of my kids have a stepson.
Perhaps my son would have a worse relationship if his step daughter were a stepson?

Hey

maybe they just arent right for you?!

What I've learnt is that the whole thing hinges tremendously on the partner who is the REAL parent. They have to bring the new parties together, mediate, and both have to follow the exact same rules, especially in the beginning.
The stepparent needs to have the full support of the real parent, which does mean they both have to see eye to eye on raising kids.
That's where it most goes wrong, both having different ideas about that.
And, like what happened to me, the real father not supporting me but always favoring his own children over mine AND over me.
He didn't want to mediate either while his kids were very difficult -even their own parents had trouble dealing with them- and he left me to sort it out myself.
I should have put my rule down from the word go, but I was too trusting of my partner who just let me down.

If you want to make it work -which IS hard work- the parent has to fully back the stepparent and correct his own children if need be to show he's on his new partner's side. Most give their kids too much leeway. I didn't and my kids were fine.

It really all hinges on how the natural parent behaves.

it's good if you introduce this from the first time you meet so that I won't be a surprise in the middle of an established relationship. having children isn't sin it all depends what triggered you not settle with the baby mama.

hey

They do not "run" any more than men...who will ALSO disappear when they find out a woman has a kid or two....not too many guys want to date a single mom....

Also..OP has been deactivated...wonder if he was abusive online here to women...


I don;t know how old OP was, as the profile has been deactivated, but he stated:
"I do however realize women my age have children already grown and do not want young children around anymore."

I am continually shocked at how many 55+ year old guys have a kid under 10 at home..
Nothing screams "I like younger women"..because you know no 50 year old women is having those kids..not the number of guys I see with them..
(yes, I know about late menopause babies, but, like I said, that's rare, and not nearly the amount I see on sites)

By the time someone is 50+..I don't think it is unreasonable to assume they do not have school age children at home, and would vastly prefer to date someone who does not either.

That's kind of how I see it too. Either they were really late getting kids and likely with a younger partner, OR they had a second 'litter' with another partner.
In either case not very appealing to get involved with.
And like you say, the amount of 50+ men with young kids at home is enormous.
Me and my then husband had kids at the normal, average age so we were mid- & late 40s when our kids were adults.
There's also an awful lot of men in their mid-forties with kids under 10. I guess late bloomers?
All in all it means that for women who did have kids at a normal age it's not that easy to find an available man, by which I mean without young kids.

There are exceptions:
My dad was born in 1912
My mom was born in 1921
I was born in 1961

My dad was 49 when I was born, 59 when I was 10.
It affected our relationship because he was unable to give me the physical relationship a father and son normally share. He bought me a baseball but never played catch with me. Never took me hunting or fishing. That kind of thing.

I had my family when I was in my late 20s so I could be active in my kids childhoods.

I don't date younger women because I am not interested in robbing a child a healthy father/son relationship.

If I date a woman with a kid(s), they must be late teenagers or older.
Because of my condition not because I don't like kids.

Maybe they run funny anyway.