Is this a record?
For the record, I'm not a monk
What's the longest you've been without a kiss or sex?

(((Hugs, kisses and sex))) I think my max was 10 years.

Voluntarily?

Voluntarily?
That's a tricky question to answer. In many ways no, of course not. But in some ways, yes. They say if there's no trust, then there's no relationship. So, do I have no trust voluntarily? No, of course not

Trust? Damn, you have to begin with trust and then let it grow or be broken. But you have to try.

I have tried

Perhaps you could try trusting in short doses.
I had a similar issue when my marriage ended.
I found it difficult to trust anyone.
So, I trusted just a lil on things which had little chance of harming me.
As the trusting continued to grow I found it easier to trust people who demonstrated to me they are trustworthy.

I did learn a valuable lesson in the process.
Once someone breaks your trust, they are technically not trustworthy.
They might continue to be my friend but the trust bond is severed.
It will always be in the way of the trust I have for them.

There are extenuating circumstances sometimes which may appear as a broken trust but I've got to remember I may not have all the information needed to determine fault.

It also depends on the expectations I have of the other person and my value to them. If I place trust in someone who by nature is untrustworthy, its my bad, not theirs.

As to getting laid it depends on how severe and overpowering your libido is and the nearby selection of willing available poontang.

10 years is a lot

Do you realize that if you look up the etymology of the word poontang , you can get 1 of those voice recordings on wikipedia that tells you how to pronounce it. But it's in a sort of 1950's British information film sort of accent
Ahh, simple things please simple minds
I now want to make a sort of house / techno / jungle song using it as a sample

What's that you said Dr Watson... Poontang?
Dead ahead sir
Spiffing, top Mark's Watson...ssssnnnniiiffff ( that's his Charlie habit by the way )

I'm on 19 years now! But I realized early on that I didn't want to be like many people that I knew when I was younger. Even though I am not a virgin, I still consider sex to be special, and I didn't want it to be a "common occurrence" for me. Do I miss it? Yes, of course! But I am hoping that when I finally find my toad in a sea of wannabe prince charmings, it'll be something special between the two of us.
Yes, I know that I said my toad...... I want someone who is unique and himself. Toads can be quite lovable too!

For me the max has been a couple of years.
Not willingly really, but in another sense it is as I choose to not have hot dates just to get some sex. Doesn't work for me.
Plus there's always a risk. You never know what kind of creep you're getting in bed with.

Similar to you about 20yrs now , I have lost interest ,maybe some lady will enter my life again to prove me wrong

go for it girl......he is out there......"make the boy earn it",,,,,

I'm not talking about my sex life on here.

I'm looking!

Ahhhhh...............aren't you people afraid of regrets? What if you suddenly found that you were going to die the day after tommorow?

What if we die tomorrow? I would rather spend the time with quality people as opposed to quantity. In the short 43 years of life I've lived, I have lost a husband, my mother, and nearly lost my own life. Only regret that I could ever have would be to not live the best life I can. Corny I know, but it's true, at least for me it is. I can't speak for anyone else.

Up to that point I had a gluttons share, at one stage living in three separate houses ,now older and wiser I would like a bit of company but could not live with anyone

I don't know what difference that would make
I often think of how much time I've wasted, and am conscious of how much time I'm wasting
I spend too much time looking forward and backwards and not enough time in the moment, I'm conscious of that too. It's not really helpful, as there is nothing to be in the moment for. It's like being in an airport or a cell, so in those moments, you pretty much do anything you can, just to kill time. It makes me angry, upset, bitter and frustrated. And I then seek to portion out blame, figuring if I can understand what caused this, then I'm in a better position to remedy it. In short, I'm well ****ed. off about it. I consider it to be barbarous and cruel, and a waste of life, but no matter how much I think about it, or who I blame ( including myself), I just don't really make any progress

Agree with AmethystWyne, I would rather choose quality than quantity. To enjoy with emotion and physically attached with the person. Not just want to have fun because of the physical need. Spiritual satisfaction is better when you have chemistry with another person.