My friend topped himself. I don't know what to say. He had good looks, money and charisma. Huh?

I’m so sorry to hear that.

My best friend committed suicide 4 yrs ago and my neighbour less than 2 months ago. I knew my friend was depressed and did everything I could to help but his demons got the better of him. I’ve been over the why and what ifs but you can never help anybody that doesn’t want your help.

Again, sorry about your friend and sending you love, light and blessings

Oh love. It just hurts. What could I have done different?

Sorry for your loss

I suppose, many hide their true inner self and pretend to be someone else, because society expects us to be strong, resiliant, etc

Well, that sucks. Thank you, but I don't buy it. Be real with your friends. That is what we are... Here and present to help.

Being honest to friends, your partner, close family is important.

But society? Your workplace? Different ball game there, unfortunately

Sorry to hear that, you have my condolences!

Many people have hidden problems they don't want to talk
about. They carry hurts deeply.

I’m really Sorry to hear
It’s really really hard to help people who are suicidal , no matter how hard we try . And it may seem to the outside looking in that perhaps this person in our eyes has everything , but when a person is feeling like this all of those things are irrelevant , and they are in so much pain with things or feel they just cannot go foreword in life .
We will never feel what they were feeling .
I’ve been suicidal myself and it’s really really hard to battle those deep dark feelings and thoughts . And to talk to people about it .

I lost my best friend to suicide 15 and a half years ago , it tore me apart and still does every single day .
The day she done it I was supposed to meet with her but had to rearrange as I had to take one of my kids to the doctors . That’s a very bad feeling I’ve lived with all these years , it took me a long time to understand that she would have done it anyway , regardless of wether I had met with her that day or not . But I still have that guilt .

The following year in my best friends birthday and what was Father’s Day , my uncle took his life . He was found by his son . So heartbreaking .
No one ever saw that coming with my uncle .

With my best friend she had some issues before and was facing some obstacles in her life , things she would have gotten through but she had a lot of pain too . No matter how much we had helped her . My world fell apart when I got that call .

We can help people as much as we can and always be there for them no matter what , but often there is nothing we can truly do when a person is feeling like this , for them suicide is their only option . And often there true feelings are hidden and they don’t want to talk about them .

It’s a heartbreaking thing for people to go through , the people themselves that feel they can no longer go on with life and the people left behind .

My heart goes out to people feeling like this and for the ones that have lost someone close to suicide

I remember when you lost poppashroom to suicide . In fact I was reading through old poetry a few weeks ago and came across your thread you posted when he died . Has there been another suicide ??? If so , that is a heavy burden for anyone to cope with and it is extremely sad to read your post .

Professionally I see many suicides/attempted suicides . In most cases , there is shock, distress suffering , sadness and guilt . I am not sure those feelings ever go away, for some they escalate and become harmful . Counselling and close support can help , likewise reaching out to others who have lost someone to suicide . If you haven’t gone down that path not looking .. something to consider . Do what you need to do to care for your heart

I wondered the same after my son committed suicide. Most of the time, it's unexpected because they appear to be fine. There really isn't anything we could have done different. Don't torture yourself with those kind of thoughts. (((((Notlooking))))

I'm so sorry for your lose. Take care of your heart, and as Blondey said, support or some kind of grief counseling can help.

Hi Blonde! :) I believe it was first thought poppashroom was lost to suicide, but it was
determined to be an accident not involving suicide. This appears to be someone else, my
heart is so heavy for Notlooking.

a friend of mine's son committed suicide. being a bit of a geek i did some research on it. suicide can be contagious especially around young people when it is for a romantic reason.
10 years ago a co-worker did it. I have read where it is epidemic in japan now where the people get their identity from work and the country is locked down...
personally it seems boring to me...i considered when a teenager and concluded i was contemplating it because i was bored and began to take more risks...

it's a very sad thing for people to do...i would say a lack of hope for something is probably at the core...we need hope in our lives that things could be better...if you are depressed i suggest you look for some hope...either in religion or whatever...
Acts 24:15
And have hope toward God, which they themselves also allow, that there shall be a resurrection of the dead, both of the just and unjust.

That's something he choose. The lie is that someone can live someone's life for them. You can only live your life the best way you can.

A for anyone who needs it.

In my country we also hear of suicides due to socio-economic compulsions! Farmers taking this ultimate step, not getting a price for their crops and not being able to pay up the loans, is commonplace here! There are student suicides too, due to similar reasons! How will you go about explaining these?

That is sad Kevin...

And I feel ANGRY! You know wot.... if you protest for such acts which were influenced by the policies of the state; you can be booked for sedition! But, anyways, that's not the topic of this thread!

I disagree. The topic is about suicide. Is it poverty and lack of hope for your countrymen/women that pushes them over the edge?