I'm a tad confused as you tell us to PO and continue to express you know it all yourself, and then you ask our advice?
In any case, I don't really get why it has to be male company? If you've lost your partner only months ago you aren't ready for a new relationship, not a budding one even. Not if your relationship was good.
So why not enjoy female company for now until you are ready?
And as for the question... it has been a topic on here a few times before.
Many say yes, it is possible.
I say, no, as there's almost always 1 party that has feelings other than just friendship. With two healthy heterosexual people of the other gender there will be at least one that has or will develop different feelings. Can be only sexual but also falling in love.
Maybe the only way it could work if the male was a widower. But even then, only 5 months after becoming a widow... very short!
Even after a breakup someone won't be ready within that short amount of time. Usually takes at least 1 yr to find your feet being alone again, and more time to be ready for a relationship, another year or more.
The impact of losing a partner and becoming widowed is usually much deeper and will as such highly likely take longer too.
My two cents. Do with it what you like.
When I say I PO everyone, I meant every guy that I've been talking too.
I don't disagree with you at all, I confuse myself everyday. I flip flop and lack life experiences. I have this fear that never goes away and this pain that never settles, my heart actually hurts. I've been in one relationship since I was 14 and he died in January. I'm devastated, I'm lost and was just trying to fill a void that can't be filled. I am open to any friendship at all... I'm just lonely and driving my actually friends nuts.
Maybe I come off as a know it all, but ... The male companionship I think I'm craving is because of my husband was my best friend. it's just my thoughts process. I don't have one single guy friend that isn't attached to my husband.
Thanks
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Unknow
on Tue 05/31/22 10:41 AM