As a woman, I'm not the chaser, I'm the runner. Maybe the widow isn't the best one to ask. I know a lot of men that I counted out resurfaced and their such amazing guys. For me ...I leave room for a man to pursue, chase, hunt. I think it's a primal dominance thing with men. It's so attractive to me.
No I haven't read your book yet Crystal I will soon.
I too like to be conquered as Crystal says... That's exactly it.
I understand a lot of men are shy now a days, so I leave a little room, but I consider a man that doesn't act upon it to still have others option (still shopping per say), especially on a dating site. Just ask directly if interested ... "Do you want to go to dinner or coffee?" That shows an interest on your part and don't move on after the first try. A lot of women are messaged by so many men that you get the auto pilot response. For me it takes 2-3 times before I bother, sometimes more.
Also, another thing if she says no off the bat, try again... What do you have to loose? Maybe she's guarded and needs a nudge.
I think a man that text me good morning, good night and takes the time to actually call or video chat me and is consistent about his chase ...well, that shows me he has a serious interest in more than a hook up or one night stand. I will ask him out as a friend. For 2023 I'm going to make it clear to my love interest my wants and needs in a relationship, friendship first for me is a must.
The one thing about my posts is you get more than you bargained for or asked for, it is what it is. Take the advice or leave it. Hope something helps someone. This is just my point of view.