So is it only the game or the "pursuit" that makes it interesting for you?
Is there nothing else "interesting" after you have captured your prey? Is that what it's about for you? An interesting game of conquest?
No, No game to it. As I said before, I'm kinda old school. I lose interest quick with a woman who will after just a few dates,lay down with me. A lot of people seem to think that if you're not sleeping together within 3 to 5 dates, You're not interested. That's not true for every man. To me, Their's a lot that goes with this. Dating someone, It's part of building trust.
If a woman will sleep with a man that quick,Who knows what she will do when his back is turned. It's also about character. Who are you,What are you? I personally like to know these things before I go sticking my pole in a pond that with all honesty,After three or five dates,I don't know you,you don't really know me.
You see, From the best I can tell,Now, It's all about the "feeling". If it feels right,do it. Well, Sometimes some things may feel right at the time,But in reality,That lust you both feel on the 3rd date, You may think is something else at the time,Until you wake up to that person beside you that was "right" last night and think to yourself, WTF am I doing here? OR, Even worse, A few months pass and what you once thought was "cute" about him or her,Now, Drives you insane? You see my point?
No, No game involved. It's called something that a lot of people seem to lack now,PLAIN OLD COMMON SENSE! You date to learn about each other. It takes more than 3 to 5 to do that. Learn about each other. Given enough time you might figure out that you love each other. If you do,Have as much sex as you want. You see, If you do it this way, You are basing your relationship on love and respect for each other. Usually, If you base your relationship on love and respect for each other, It has a better chance of lasting.
But, The way most seem to want to do now, They base their relationship on "first" attraction and sex. Or, How good the sex is with that person. It's bound to fail. Look at the divorce rate for proof.
I totally agree with everything you said and I am surprised. I didn't know men like you even existed. I wish there were more of them. A mature sensible man. Wow. Who would have ever thought they even existed.....
<-------that's me in shock.
I'm going to have to alter my perception of men and reality now.
Well, I know this may be hard to believe, Their are other guys out there that think, I will say, At least close to the way I do. I know that the grand majority of men now think with their pecker. Guys like me are getting fewer and farther between. It seems to me that more and more people now,they don't realize it,but,they are getting more and more like animals. No better than two dogs getting it on in your front yard.
I honestly believe that is why a lot of men stay single. Just like a few min ago I was on another site reading some questions that a woman had answered. One of the main turn offs that I see when reading questions that people answer knowing that anyone can read them,are some of the sex questions. Long story short, One of the questions was about, "Would you stay in a relationship with a man if the sex wasn't that good?" She said,NO,She wouldn't.
When I see that,It's a automatic turn off for me. I move right on to the next one. Here's why, A simple question always comes in my mind. "Where is the love?" If you truly love a man, Or if a man truly loves a woman, The sex part is fixable. All it takes is some communication, love and time and the sex will get better.
So, In other words, When I see that I know that this person doesn't base their relationships on love and respect for the other. All they want to think about is their self. Their pleasure, They emphasize sex to much. They are not thinking about loving someone in that unconditional way that we all are suppose to. With most now it's "I love you "IF" And that my friend isn't the way it's suppose to be.
This is the biggest reason why I haven't remarried after almost 14 years of being divorced. Some people think that when a person stays single this long after being divorced that they must have commitment issues. That's not always true.
I would be more than glad to commit if only people would quit scaring the shyt out of me with their weird way of thinking what a relationship is.I know what love is and I know what it's suppose to be.And it isn't based on sex and the performance of it. I know what real commitment is to and what it's suppose to be is quickly becoming a thing of the past.
