Topic: No one interested because your a father
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cool51a

Sat 04/22/17 04:01 AM

True,hey but I think I better have none of them if lies is a good music to ladies and I will never compromise my kids to find "happiness".I'd rather be alone because my kids are my life.Ladies if you think lies makes a man then I'm not a man.I don't want a life of regrets!
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cool51a

Sat 04/22/17 04:19 AM


I agree..in fact by my age I would find it a little odd if a man did not have children for it may signify his inability to commit to a monogamous relationship at any point in his life spock
Well,wouldn't it be judgemental if you conclude that a person's inability to be in a monogamous relationship?It's always good to learn of facts that lead to tha situation because the choices we make could lead to being in such situations.We need to look closely at the contributing factors before we see the inability of a person.
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bwalemat

Sun 06/18/17 07:22 AM

yeah,very true seen that many times.
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msharmony

Sun 06/18/17 07:35 AM


Does anyone else feel that being honest on here and saying you've got kids to an ex partner it's more difficult to interact with someone and start at conversation that could lead to more?


no, I think it saves you wasted time from investing in someone who would cut you off for being a parent anyway,,,,
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Scotta12345

Tue 02/06/18 01:33 AM

Hey I am a single father have been for 12years you bet it's been a pretty tough experience but I love it my kid is amazing she is everything to me but finding a Good woman has been a difficult process and I'm still trying. Gotta keep it real!
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Moonchild_hemp

Sat 04/14/18 06:48 PM

I always include that in my profile
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DonnaRocamora

Thu 07/05/18 08:07 AM


My boys are part of me my life.. what journey what path I take in life..
they are on as well.. so we are kind of a package deal..:wink: ..


I greatly admire men who consider their kids a big part of their lives. Kudos to you.
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NOBootyHunter

Thu 07/05/18 08:17 AM

It's a package deal... I love my daughters and if you don't get along with them or try to be fake and pretend you like them.. bye Felicia
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Tom4Uhere

Thu 07/05/18 09:17 AM


Does anyone else feel that being honest on here and saying you've got kids to an ex partner it's more difficult to interact with someone and start at conversation that could lead to more?

Honesty/Being Honest
Why would I be otherwise?
My search is to find a woman that wants to share life experiences with me.
Since my profile reflects that one-one relationship and my goals, I don't feel my children are or should be a major deciding factor.
That is knowledge that comes after as part of the life experience she will be sharing.
Our children are very important to us (unless you are a scumbag) and the profile does have the option to select whether or not you have children and want children.
I have children, grown and not living with me, my profile depicts this (at the bottom). I also have listed that I do not want children.
I don't want to sire anymore children because my health prevents me from the activities required to raise a child.
I am not opposed to dating a woman that already has children but at my age preferences, most women I will date are entering into or have already past menopause. Their children will already be preteen, teens or young adults.

While you may not make your children the focus of your profile, I would think that if the subject comes up, you would be honest about it.
Who wants to enter into a relationship with a liar?

All in all, the primary focus of your profile should be of you.
A woman that is interested in you because you have children is not a date, she is a nanny, or worse. (not to diminish the nanny profession)

I want a woman choosing me because of me, not the children I sired, raised.

Focus on honesty and what it takes to find the right person for you and if they are the right person, your children will only solidify the interest.
Edited by Tom4Uhere on Thu 07/05/18 09:19 AM
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mom3mim3

Sun 07/22/18 03:24 AM

I don't mind dating a guy with kids, I love kids and have three of my own and also grands, but I do question single dads who say things like "my kids are my world," "my kids come first". Yes, they should be your world and they should come first, but what that means to me and what that means to the guy could be two totally different things. I know this from experience.




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Easttowest72

Sun 07/22/18 03:56 AM

I think at a certain age most people have kids so it's not a big deal. But then as people get older, most don't want someone with small kids. I have a 14 year old daughter. It doesn't cause a problem with dating.
I did send a guy a pic of me and my grandsons at noccalula falls. I had already told him my youngest is 14. He first asked if they were my kids. Then he asked if I keep my grandkids at night as well. It was just a fun day at the park. He has an 11 years old he has all the time. He seemed a bit bitchy.
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ElissaIsTrans

Sun 07/22/18 01:27 PM

I don’t think it’s a big deal to be honest.
Kids are great if the other party wants to be a stepmom or stepdad.
Just gotta find someone who also wants kids and who doesn’t mind being a step-parent.
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Rock

Tue 07/24/18 04:36 AM

Babies and toddlers are usually chick magnets.

:kissing_closed_eyes::kissing_closed_eyes::kissing_closed_eyes::heart_eyes:
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Chaulk Smith MD

Sun 12/01/19 04:23 AM

hi
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Scorpio

Thu 02/06/20 01:43 AM

its normal reaction from the people we are meeting along the way .just be sincere for sure one day you'll meet someone special for you.
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Scorpio

Thu 02/06/20 04:42 AM

youre absolutely right no1phd
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bobtail76

Sat 02/08/20 01:13 AM


Does anyone else feel that being honest on here and saying you've got kids to an ex partner it's more difficult to interact with someone and start at conversation that could lead to more?


Kids can be a pain in the ***. I met a woman, she was great, we clicked. After she introduced me to her kids, I knew it wouldn't work. The kid was a shithead and there wasn't a damn thing I could do about it. The other kid was fine... we got along.

It's a game changer, that's for sure. At this age, I'm also leery of women with no kids. I think it's very situational
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Leuy

Sun 02/09/20 09:31 AM

Very much. But my girls are a part of my life and I believe if you cannot accept me because they are then that is your hang up. Having a child does not make you taboo in fact it makes you a more emotional and feet on the ground person. This is my life and they are a part of it so if you don’t accept all of me it is your loss.
Edited by Leuy on Sun 02/09/20 09:31 AM
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Adnan

Wed 07/15/20 09:17 PM

agreed